hello Gandalf.,, I asked a question to the folks who are reading this thread
"What actually is Positive thinking??"Answers were not satisfactory
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So, can you help me to understand that
+ve thinking with some examples
Do you think the so-called successful folks in life(in present day those who make lots and lots of millions of pounds and dollars) ARE THEY +VE THINKERS??
To take your last question first: I think success is subjective. Some may think that getting a great job and earning big bucks is what success is, but others might measure it by having a happy family who loves them and having a comfortable life. I know of plenty examples of wealthy people committing suicide and generally leading destructive lifestyles because of some dissatisfaction with their ‘success’, but if there are such incidences for those who feel genuinely successful for raising a happy family and happy home then I haven’t heard of one.
If I was to sum that up I would say, controversially, that you’re probably successful if you are truly happy with your lot. That’s not to say people shouldn’t try to achieve more, but it should be what you want to achieve and not what others measure success by.
Positive thinking means just what it says. It is that simple, but that does not mean changing one’s behaviour to do it is easy. To coin a cliché it really is about seeing the glass as half full.
I don’t know what it’s like where you are, but when I woke this morning the sun was shining. I thought about that for a moment. The sun; in all its fiery glory 96 million miles away somehow keeping us warm, making things grow and ultimately putting a smile on my face. It made me think of spring and days to come of riding my motorbike with my mates.
At the moment it’s raining a little. I can see rivulets of water running down the edges of street. It pours down the drains and I wonder where it goes and how it ends up at my kitchen tap. It makes me think how lucky I am. It makes me think about making a cup of tea.
Positive thinking can obviously be much harder at times of difficulty or tragedy. However, I have always taken the (probably non-scientific) approach of not dwelling on why and instead thinking of what to do next. In fact, you will probably find that people who suffer bouts of tragedy are more commonly positive thinkers because it puts life into stark perspective. It demonstrates how fragile it is.
So be happy you’re here to enjoy it in the first place. Drink in the sun. Drink in the rain. Walk tall and try to shrug off your worries, because ultimately they’re temporary.
The greatest admission you have to make to be a positive thinker is that it’s ultimately in your hands. People can give you all the support they like but really it’s down to you and no one else. Too much support can be negative; it becomes a crutch to lean on. Like I said above, learn to walk tall and unburdened. Use words like can instead of can’t; do instead of don’t; will instead of won’t. It all sounds so old and hippy-ish, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t work.
Quod made a good point above about positivity rubbing off. Positivity gives you confidence, gives you control, gives you power. People around you will take more time in sizing you up before engaging with you. It puts you on the front foot…something a lot of people on here could do very well with.
So when it comes to positive thinking – TRY IT. And if you find yourself slipping, catch yourself before you fall. Nobody else will.
Topic: Positive thinking.