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  • Out of curiousity
     OP - June 30, 2014, 09:22 PM
    Just out of curiosity, for the female members, how many of you had to leave your families, move away to have a better life?
    It would be cool if you'l could share your experiences here.
    Where did you move to? How did i t go down with the families? Was it worth it?
    Did anyone have to go against their whole family?
    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #1 - June 30, 2014, 09:29 PM
    I left when I was about 15 and never looked back. I have not thought of those people as my family since then. I rarely think about them at all, only when it is occasioned in my mind when other people bring it up. They don't even figure into my life at all. Just a footnote in my history that I feel completely apathetic about.
    Too fucking busy, and vice versa.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #2 - June 30, 2014, 09:40 PM
    I haven't actually done it but I am planning on doing so. I haven't got it all figured out but I know I can't keep living with these people.
    Just like Johnny Flynn said, the breath I've taken and the one I must to go on.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #3 - June 30, 2014, 09:53 PM
    Im going to leave my family, because I cant live my life like this, I cant handle this being another person all the time+I hate this culture where a girl's life means nothing but just being a good wife.
    Fuck that shit, because Im a person not just a vagina.
    My move will actually shock everyone (my relatives, the community) lol  (evil laugh)   Tongue
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #4 - June 30, 2014, 10:06 PM
    Quote from: INcePtion on June 30, 2014, 09:53 PM
    Im going to leave my family, because I cant live my life like this, I cant handle this being another person all the time+I hate this culture where a girl's life means nothing but just being a good wife.
    Fuck that shit, because Im a person not just a vagina.
    My move will actually shock everyone (my relatives, the community) lol  (evil laugh)   Tongue


    Trouble maker...

    You don't take a trumpet and announce to family folks  "Fuck that shit, because Im a person not just a vagina. "..   How about moving out quietly and asking them to pay for your boarding and lodging in a dorm  as good girl ..  If needed pretend praying like good muslimah for some time...
    Do not let silence become your legacy.. Question everything   
    I renounced my faith to become a kafir, 
    the beloved betrayed me and turned in to  a Muslim     
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #5 - June 30, 2014, 10:08 PM
    how old r u inception
    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #6 - June 30, 2014, 10:16 PM
    ^yeez....
    You dont know my family. Just to give you an idea

    I was late and didnt pick up my dad's call, then came home, he called me all sorts of thing. On the other hand they let their beloved son come home at 5 in the morning.

    But sometimes I dont know why I have a soft corner for them.




  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #7 - June 30, 2014, 10:17 PM
    Quote from: confusedagno on June 30, 2014, 10:08 PM
    how old r u inception

     18  ...
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #8 - June 30, 2014, 10:19 PM
    Gosh I need to stop thinking about this topic, the more i think about the more I feel that I am not strong enough to go against everyone and leave  Cry
    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #9 - June 30, 2014, 10:20 PM
    Quote from: yeezevee on June 30, 2014, 10:06 PM
    Trouble maker...

    You don't take a trumpet and announce to family folks  "Fuck that shit, because Im a person not just a vagina. "..   How about moving out quietly and asking them to pay for your boarding and lodging in a dorm  as good girl ..  If needed pretend praying like good muslimah for some time...

    That's is if they let her go to a uni that's not near their home....
    Just like Johnny Flynn said, the breath I've taken and the one I must to go on.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #10 - June 30, 2014, 10:24 PM
    ^They would rather buy a house near the Uni. Lol


    @confus  I know how you feel. Easier said than done. I feel guilty just thinking about it. :/
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #11 - June 30, 2014, 10:29 PM
    Quote from: INcePtion on June 30, 2014, 10:24 PM
    ^They would rather buy a house near the Uni. Lol

    ..............

    Wohhoo. look at that ..  see that.,

     your dad is loaded.. so be good  and BUY A HOUSE FOR YOURSELF., let them pay.,  ., people like you are rare and very useful 10 years down the road   INcePtion .
    Do not let silence become your legacy.. Question everything   
    I renounced my faith to become a kafir, 
    the beloved betrayed me and turned in to  a Muslim     
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #12 - June 30, 2014, 10:29 PM
    My folks told me that they'd move wherever the uni was rather than leave me be like an adult Cheesy
    Just like Johnny Flynn said, the breath I've taken and the one I must to go on.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #13 - June 30, 2014, 10:34 PM
    ^we've got the same parents  grin12
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #14 - June 30, 2014, 10:37 PM
    Quote from: yeezevee on June 30, 2014, 10:29 PM
    Wohhoo. look at that ..  see that.,

     your dad is loaded.. so be good  and BUY A HOUSE FOR YOURSELF., let them pay.,  ., people like you are rare and very useful 10 years down the road   INcePtion .

    They've paid me enough. I got a brain, and Im healthy. I can work lol
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #15 - June 30, 2014, 10:37 PM
    Shitty as hell man but I might appreciate this or some crap people try to feed us.
    Now what would it be if I was born into an atheist family that set me up a college fund.
    Just like Johnny Flynn said, the breath I've taken and the one I must to go on.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #16 - July 01, 2014, 03:27 AM
    It's nice to dream wiselyskeptical but like my therepist says reality bites. I had panic attacks last night just thinking about telling my mum I want to move overseas, which will only be a year or two from now.

    Reality is we are girls,  our families are over protective, our families will genuinely worry that we will get raped or killed alone in a foreign place.

    How do we take that plunge and leave to start a new life while hurting people we care about. I think about staying but my life will not progress in any way, I will always be controlled if I stay.  Leaving will grant me the opportunity to grow and progress and love the life I want to.

    I wish I could be a brave and bold as ishana and just do it. In any case I have 1-2 years to toughen up and I hope I can.

    It's reassuring to hear of people who have done it and are happier now.
    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #17 - July 01, 2014, 06:19 AM
    I will move after a year or so. Then it is goodbye to my family forever and the horrible people of my locality. I just can't wait for that day. After that whatever will happen to me I will be responsible for it.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #18 - July 01, 2014, 06:36 AM
    Sometimes I cannot believe the attitudes of these parents.  They themselves had far more freedom than they are allowing young adults now.

    Quote
    ;The short skirt was not really worn by many women until 1966 [when Mary Quant introduced short mini dresses and skirts that were set 6 or 7 inches above the knee] and not nationwide until 1967. The mini skirts reached their hayday in the year 1970. At that time,they were worn worldwide by the vast majority of women ,even in many Islamic, Arab, and Middle Eastern countries.In the Middle East ,women wore mini skirts as their daily apparel. From Kabul in Afghanistan to Iran and Bahrain in the Persian Gulf,Egypt,the Levant,North Africa,etc, mini skirts were the trend and it was generally acceptable for many women to wear them, even in the most religious and conservative families and societies...


    http://www.ikbis.com/shots/78949
    When you are a Bear of Very Little Brain, and you Think of Things, you find sometimes that a Thing which seemed very Thingish inside you is quite different when it gets out into the open and has other people looking at it.


    A.A. Milne,

    "We cannot slaughter each other out of the human impasse"
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #19 - July 01, 2014, 08:44 AM
    ^Well not all parents Moi. During my parents' time love affairs were seen as a very bad thing. My parents can't never sympathise with me because they don't know the meaning of romantic love. Of course such things did occur but they are really rare cases.

    And talking about mini-skirts even the girls of my generation say that who wants to be raped by wearing those?! It's too risky. Even I never took the risk of wearing one. And girls who dared to do so are called bad names by both the men and women.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #20 - July 01, 2014, 02:03 PM
    Quote from: confusedagno on July 01, 2014, 03:27 AM
    It's nice to dream wiselyskeptical but like my therepist says reality bites. I had panic attacks last night just thinking about telling my mum I want to move overseas, which will only be a year or two from now.

    Reality is we are girls,  our families are over protective, our families will genuinely worry that we will get raped or killed alone in a foreign place.

    How do we take that plunge and leave to start a new life while hurting people we care about. I think about staying but my life will not progress in any way, I will always be controlled if I stay.  Leaving will grant me the opportunity to grow and progress and love the life I want to.

    I wish I could be a brave and bold as ishana and just do it. In any case I have 1-2 years to toughen up and I hope I can.

    It's reassuring to hear of people who have done it and are happier now.


    It's just a dream.

    My parents don't realise that I don't care about them "caring".
    My parents and family are not good people. I don't care about hurting them, or having them disappointed. They have already given me a lifetime of disappointment from the day that I was born, and in all honestly they deserve every last piece of shit I am going to give them.
    Just like Johnny Flynn said, the breath I've taken and the one I must to go on.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #21 - July 01, 2014, 02:29 PM
    What makes them not good people?
    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #22 - July 01, 2014, 02:36 PM
    Resident Gangster says

    Quote from: Wiselyskeptical on July 01, 2014, 02:03 PM
    It's just a dream.

    My parents don't realise that I don't care about them "caring".
    My parents and family are not good people. I don't care about hurting them, or having them disappointed. They have already given me a lifetime of disappointment from the day that I was born, and in all honestly they deserve every last piece of shit I am going to give them.

    Stop..stop...stop it...  what is that a rap song of  Resident Gangster?   Oops I didn't see this OP..

    Quote from: confusedagno on June 30, 2014, 09:22 PM
    Just out of curiosity, for the female members, how many of you................


    Sorry for intruding Wiselyskeptical  Resident Gangster
    Do not let silence become your legacy.. Question everything   
    I renounced my faith to become a kafir, 
    the beloved betrayed me and turned in to  a Muslim     
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #23 - July 01, 2014, 02:41 PM
    Quote from: confusedagno on July 01, 2014, 02:29 PM
    What makes them not good people?

    They'd rather victim blame me rather than realise how wrong what they say is.
    They repeatedly threaten to hurt me if I bend, not break, their rules. I feel I am confined to a sentence in a prison for a crime that I didn't do.
    Whenever I say something right or that proved them wrong they immediately attack me with harshness that I don't deserve.
    They don't realise the love doesn't equal control.   
    Just like Johnny Flynn said, the breath I've taken and the one I must to go on.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #24 - July 01, 2014, 02:41 PM
    Quote from: confusedagno on July 01, 2014, 02:29 PM
    What makes them not good people?

    The treating you unfairly
    The not respecting your dreams
    The controlling every aspect of your life through religion
    The depriving you of your basic human right

  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #25 - July 01, 2014, 02:42 PM
    Quote from: yeezevee on July 01, 2014, 02:36 PM
    Resident Gangster says
    Stop..stop...stop it...  what is that a rap song of  Resident Gangster?   Oops I didn't see this OP..

    Sorry for intruding Wiselyskeptical  Resident Gangster

    Wut?

    I think yeez has it out for me.
    Just like Johnny Flynn said, the breath I've taken and the one I must to go on.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #26 - July 01, 2014, 02:51 PM
    lol i honestly have no idea what yeez said up there
    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #27 - July 01, 2014, 02:55 PM
    Yeez explain thyself
    Just like Johnny Flynn said, the breath I've taken and the one I must to go on.
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #28 - July 01, 2014, 03:14 PM
    Quote from: Wiselyskeptical on July 01, 2014, 02:55 PM
    Yeez explain thyself

      You guys are singing Rap songs .. I am not good at it..    Huh?   

     
    Rap song-1

    I'm going to leave my family,
     I cant live my life like this,
     I cant handle this being another person all the time
    I hate this culture
    Girl' means nothing but just being a good wife.
    Fuck that shit,
     Im a person not just a vagina.
    My move will actually shock everyone ..(evil laugh)   Tongue ....... INcePtion -

    Rap song-2

    It's just a dream.
    My parents don't realise
    I don't care about them "caring".
    My parents and family are not good people.
    I don't care about hurting them,
    or having them disappointed.
    They have already given me
    a lifetime of disappointment
     from the day that I was born,
    and in all honestly
     they deserve every last piece of shit I  give them. .... Wiselyskeptical

    Rap song-3

    The treating you unfairly
    The not respecting your dreams
    The controlling every aspect of your life through religion
    The depriving you of your basic human right .. ....  INcePtion

    Rap Song-4

    They'd rather victim blame me
    rather than realise how wrong what they say is.
    They repeatedly threaten to hurt me
    if I bend, not break, their rules.
    I feel I am confined to a sentence in a prison
     for a crime that I didn't do.
    Whenever I say something right or
    that proved them wrong
    they immediately attack me
    with harshness that I don't deserve.
    They don't realise the love doesn't equal control.  ...... Wiselyskeptical    

    Boy............. they are as good as any rap songs or little sonnets from Quran..


    Do not let silence become your legacy.. Question everything   
    I renounced my faith to become a kafir, 
    the beloved betrayed me and turned in to  a Muslim     
  • Out of curiousity
     Reply #29 - July 01, 2014, 03:16 PM
    O fuck  Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy
    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
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