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OP - November 27, 2014, 07:41 PM

Hi
Ever since i left islam i have felt like i don't fit in anywhere
Has anyone else felt like this and if you have how have you dealt with it?
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Reply #1 - November 27, 2014, 08:03 PM

I don't fit in, either. At first I was sort of having a culture shock. But now I know I just don't fit in, and as long as I keep trying and continue to reach out to people, that is all I can do. I live in a small town that is huge on family and charity, but not great at socializing outside of families. So I just need to keep being friendly and hope some other misfits find me.

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Reply #2 - November 27, 2014, 08:22 PM

I've never fitted in anywhere, but if you're comfortable in your own skin, does it matter?
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Reply #3 - November 27, 2014, 08:27 PM

When you were a believer, did you feel like you fitted in?

I think the feeling of not fitting in is universal. Maybe the problem is when people try and make you believe that you belong where you don't feel like you belong.

Keep making friends, seeking out experiences -- you will find your home and balance.

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Reply #4 - November 28, 2014, 01:10 AM

don't worry,u shall become fit soon,and this xperience shall take place happily,the best fitness is in the humanity,and religions won,t provide it.
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Reply #5 - November 28, 2014, 01:51 AM

Quote from: Dreamygirl on November 27, 2014, 07:41 PM
Hi
Ever since i left islam i have felt like i don't fit in anywhere
Has anyone else felt like this and if you have how have you dealt with it?

When we go to a new place, feel that we don't fit in, like going away to university. But gradually we get to know fellow students and become comfortable in new environment.

You will make friends with like minded people - you have chance of meeting people from wider community since you are not restricted by Islam any more. Good Luck.

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Reply #6 - November 28, 2014, 02:34 AM

Quote from: Dreamygirl on November 27, 2014, 07:41 PM
Hi
Ever since i left islam i have felt like i don't fit in anywhere
Has anyone else felt like this and if you have how have you dealt with it?

Absolutely. Even when I was a Muslim.
But why should it matter?

Quote from: billy on November 27, 2014, 08:27 PM
Keep making friends, seeking out experiences -- you will find your home and balance.
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Reply #7 - November 28, 2014, 10:12 AM

O ye, I am in search of a place that I fit into.
And ye even as a muslim I always stood out

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Reply #8 - November 30, 2014, 01:52 AM

I think people who do things differently from those around them will never fit in. And then when you leave Islam you still have that past that has shaped you. It's still possible to find your kindred spirits, you have to keep your eyes open and take opportunities when they come to you. Just don't change who you are to fit in.

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Reply #9 - November 30, 2014, 05:39 AM

we all have. I never really fit in. I was never like other Somali girls. I wanted to play street hockey with the boys, and soccer. I wanted to get a bike and ride and race other kids. I wanted to take karate lessons. I loved music, I loved winter and wanted to constantly be out with the non muslim kids to play in the snow. I wanted to wear pants all the time. I spoke up against things that I thought were wrong especially around men and older ppl.

Only reason I went to the mosque was bc there was a jamaican convert who used to make patties the rest was boring as frack.

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Reply #10 - November 30, 2014, 08:02 AM

The world needs less people that merely "fit in." Be yourself, express yourself, and never compromise who you are. People will respect you more for it.

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Reply #11 - November 30, 2014, 09:58 PM

Growing up I never fitted in either. I wanted rock music, jeans, horseriding and italian food. What I got was religious lectures, salvar kameez, my brother's broken bike and chapattis.

It didn't stop me being me though and gradually I have found others who have survived their childhood with their personalties intact. Their experiences may have been different from mine, but it left them with the same feelings isolation.

Don't worry too much, you will eventually find people who make you feel less alone.
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