A question to "out" ex-Muslims

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A question to "out" ex-Muslims
OP - September 02, 2009, 04:32 PM

What was the family's reaction?

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Reply #1 - September 02, 2009, 04:35 PM

I had quite a soft landing, as I had expressed my doubts from the beginning as a kid. So when I finally told them it was not as much as a surprise to them as I thought it would be.

TBH my uncles & aunties found it harder as they were not aware of my earlier thoughts..

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Reply #2 - September 02, 2009, 04:37 PM

Quote from: IsLame on September 02, 2009, 04:35 PM
I had quite a soft landing, as I had expressed my doubts from the beginning as a kid. So when I finally told them it was not as much as a surprise to them as I thought it would be.

TBH my uncles & aunties found it harder as they were not aware of my earlier thoughts..

Slightly surprised because I was a practising muslim. But it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. My uncle is an atheist which helped and obviously he was the first person I told.
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Reply #3 - September 02, 2009, 04:48 PM

Aliadiere - if you are thinking of doing it and your parents might get very angry, then my advice to you is to do it slowly. First mention that you are struggling to understand Islam after reading into it. They will tell you to read more, and speak to scholars. Then come back to them and say your questions have not been answered.

Have this discussion upteen times until they get bored with it, then when they cant be bothered listening any more, then casually slip it in. They will get excited so say you'll read more, but from this stage you on, you can keep saying your questions have not been answered.

You dont need to use the word atheist - you can say you still might have faith in God, but you believe that he judges you for your good deeds, and not the amount of servitude you have performed as he is not a narcissistic creature from what you have read.

If you are like me and cannot bear being openly dishonest come what may, then go for the plunge but keep your bullet-proof jacket at the ready.

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Re: A question to "out" ex-Muslims
Reply #4 - September 02, 2009, 05:45 PM

I'm not going to tell my family just yet, I'm just going to tell a couple of my cousins who are my peers! They are a liberal bunch anyway! I was talking to one of them yesterday and he said he wasn't fasting because he was too tired as he had just come back from Notting Hill Carnival!

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Re: A question to "out" ex-Muslims
Reply #5 - September 02, 2009, 06:24 PM

Quote from: aliadiere on September 02, 2009, 04:32 PM
What was the family's reaction?

I have never had a problem.

My family is fairly liberal and out of my 9 brothers and sisters I have always had one brother and one sister who were never practising Muslims.

My religious eldest sisters were upset and shocked and called me to a meeting - but they couldn't deal with my arguments and since then have never approached the subject with me - I think they are scared to.
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