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  • Gay Muslimahs
     OP - October 18, 2009, 03:13 AM

    I found this link through an Islamic website I still read now and then (they post a lot of interesting links).  It's a thread of conversation where apparently gay Muslimahs have been offering one another support for like 2 yrs or something.  I thought someone might find it useful, since I know some of you out there reading are still Muslims and are trying to deal with this issue and Islam.  

    http://www.afterellen.com/node/5160

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #1 - October 18, 2009, 05:04 AM

    TalkIslam.info does have a bunch of interesting posts dunnit?

    The Imaan forum is also very interesting place. Afro

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #2 - October 18, 2009, 11:56 PM

    LOL I do read Talk Islam now and then but I got the link from a blog called Muslimah Media Watch.  Both blogs feature commentary and discussions that are terribly annoying and pompous, but lots of interesting links.  Talk Islam seems like they also don't censor, but I'm not sure about that.  Their "apostate blogger" is fairly mild, and the conversations never really get that intense.  He certainly isn't challenging them on much.

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #3 - October 19, 2009, 12:28 AM

    TalkIslam.info does have a bunch of interesting posts dunnit?

    The Imaan forum is also very interesting place. Afro


    Having hung out there before in the past I'd say that the greater issue isn't their sexuality/religion conflict but their parents backwards tribalistic culture they still continued practicing after coming to the UK. There was an interesting documentary on a couple of days ago about gay Muslims but every thing they talked about was actually related to their parents and forcing them to get married - homosexuality happened to be a secondary issue.

    "It's just a job. Grass grows, birds fly, waves pound the sand. I beat people up." - Muhammad Ali
  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #4 - October 19, 2009, 12:43 AM

    What do you think about gay muslimahs, Kawaii?

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #5 - October 19, 2009, 04:55 PM

    What do you think about gay muslimahs, Kawaii?


    +1

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #6 - October 19, 2009, 08:37 PM

    +2

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #7 - October 20, 2009, 01:17 AM

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #8 - October 20, 2009, 04:54 AM

    What do you think about gay muslimahs, Kawaii?


    Lets flip the table; if Islam was being interpreted through a modern or a post modern enlightenment lens - would the outcomes be different? To what degree are the problems have to do with tradition, identity, tribalism and homosexuality being seen as a transgression of gender roles?

    Regarding whether it is possible to 'reform' Muslims to accept gay Muslims? lets remember that homosexuality is more or less condemned or marginally tolerated by mainline Christianity. Lets also look at the make up of the Muslim community as well - there are reason for why they think they way they do and continue to hold those views even if they left Islam.

    As for gay Muslims themselves - they're deluded if they think that mainstream Muslims will treat them with respect; they're better off sucking it up, leaving their community entirely and create a whole new identity instead of being stuck in this frame of conforming to your parents/families backwards and tribalistic mentality.

    For me I embraced Sufism-Alevism which is far removed from the kind of crap that gay Muslims have to put up with. Then again I don't *need* a community to give me identity - I create my own identity - hence I don't have this addiction that some Muslims have to their family and conforming to a backwards culture.

    "It's just a job. Grass grows, birds fly, waves pound the sand. I beat people up." - Muhammad Ali
  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #9 - October 20, 2009, 05:03 AM

    As for gay Muslims themselves - they're deluded if they think that mainstream Muslims will treat them with respect; they're better off sucking it up, leaving their community entirely and create a whole new identity instead of being stuck in this frame of conforming to your parents/families backwards and tribalistic mentality.


    I agree with you there.

    For me I embraced Sufism-Alevism which is far removed from the kind of crap that gay Muslims have to put up with. Then again I don't *need* a community to give me identity - I create my own identity - hence I don't have this addiction that some Muslims have to their family and conforming to a backwards culture.


    That doesn't answer the question... let's rephrase it: suppose your child or your sibling came up to you and said he or she is gay, what would be your feeling towards him/her, what would you say to him/her? We already know very well what the average Muslim (or Christian) would think and say. Since you're subscribing to a unique brand of Islam, we're curious what you, yourself think of homosexuality and how, if at all, you view it especially in light of your faith.

    "Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be amused."
  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #10 - October 20, 2009, 05:11 AM

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    That doesn't answer the question... let's rephrase it: suppose your child or your sibling came up to you and said he or she is gay, what would be your feeling towards him/her, what would you say to him/her? We already know very well what the average Muslim (or Christian) would think and say. Since you're subscribing to a unique brand of Islam, we're curious what you, yourself think of homosexuality and how, if at all, you view it especially in light of your faith.


    I'm gay, so obviously I'd accept my child; I would, however, encourage him or her not to fall into the gay scene that exists which is based on nothing more than nihilistic hedonism. A nihilistic hedonism that an individual feeling bruised and broken.

    Having been outside the mainstream since knee high to a grass hopper - the sense of 'belonging' to something isn't something I feel that I need hence I never got all enamoured by the gay scene and changing myself to fit in.

    "It's just a job. Grass grows, birds fly, waves pound the sand. I beat people up." - Muhammad Ali
  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #11 - October 20, 2009, 05:15 AM

    While I agree that there are such aspects of the lgbt community, there's also an immense amount of support that are available to lgbt folks within those structures.

    As a gay Muslim, how do you reconcile Quranic verses and the various Hadiths that condemn homosexuality with your own identity as a gay person? Does Alevism offer alternatives to those?

    "Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be amused."
  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #12 - October 20, 2009, 05:26 AM

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    While I agree that there are such aspects of the lgbt community, there's also an immense amount of support that are available to lgbt folks within those structures.


    But at the same time I am university and Uniq (the GLBT group) is like a group of clich?s living up to every stereotype.

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    As a gay Muslim, how do you reconcile Quranic verses and the various Hadiths that condemn homosexuality with your own identity as a gay person? Does Alevism offer alternatives to those?


    Where abouts in the Qur'an; the only verses used are adultery to with homosexuality has nothing to do with adultery (clue to any clueless Muslims, adultery are between a married person and another person), nothing to do with Lewdness when one considers the history context for which marriage provides (nothing to do with STD's and other erroneous crap some Muslims use) and as for the story of Lut/Lot - when compared to the Tanakh the explanation is given that Ezekiel described the sins of Sodom in social terms: "pride, fulness of bread ad careless ease in her and in her daughters; neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy. And they were haughty" (16:49-50).

    As for the Hadiths - I take them with a grain of salt; does it conflict with the Qur'an, is the chain of narratives good and is it reasonable and rational.

    "It's just a job. Grass grows, birds fly, waves pound the sand. I beat people up." - Muhammad Ali
  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #13 - October 20, 2009, 09:50 AM

    But the Quran itself is frequently not reasonable and rational. Why demand such of the ahadith?

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #14 - October 20, 2009, 11:17 AM

    But at the same time I am university and Uniq (the GLBT group) is like a group of clich?s living up to every stereotype.

    Where abouts in the Qur'an; the only verses used are adultery to with homosexuality has nothing to do with adultery (clue to any clueless Muslims, adultery are between a married person and another person), nothing to do with Lewdness when one considers the history context for which marriage provides (nothing to do with STD's and other erroneous crap some Muslims use) and as for the story of Lut/Lot - when compared to the Tanakh the explanation is given that Ezekiel described the sins of Sodom in social terms: "pride, fulness of bread ad careless ease in her and in her daughters; neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy. And they were haughty" (16:49-50).

    As for the Hadiths - I take them with a grain of salt; does it conflict with the Qur'an, is the chain of narratives good and is it reasonable and rational.


    So you are basically taking the same position as Muhsin Hendricks and others that the Quran has been wrongly interpreted for lo, these many years, and that hadith, well, we can pick them and choose them.  [Which is an approach that I personally support].  Question - do you use what the bible says when interpreting other Quranic commands and verses, or only with regards to this topic? 

    Have you ever thought to make use of 'a burden that it cannot bear' as far as saying, hey, big al wouldn't 'burden' me with this 'test' (which is what a generous Muslim will call someone's gayness) without also allowing or forgiving me for taking the means to relieve it.  which is not a stance that I personally like, but one that might marginally appeal to some Muslims.

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #15 - October 20, 2009, 01:09 PM

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    So you are basically taking the same position as Muhsin Hendricks and others that the Quran has been wrongly interpreted for lo, these many years, and that hadith, well, we can pick them and choose them.  [Which is an approach that I personally support].  Question - do you use what the bible says when interpreting other Quranic commands and verses, or only with regards to this topic?


    Muslims in the past used to look at the Tanakh for clarification (noted in Hans Kung: Islam - Past, Present and Future) - as a Muslim one is meant to believe in the previous revelations. So it isn't as though I'd be bringing in a new idea (unfortunately some have used that cross referencing to pull on has resulted in an anti-gay interpretation of the Qur'an).

    As for hadith; lets not try and kid ourselves - all the scholars pick and choose; the excuses are different though. They'll say "chain of narratives not strong" and I will say, "its a load of bollocks - lets ignore it" - the net result is the same.

    Shiah (which Alevi are considered to be part of) don't view every hadith is infallible nor always applicable given that the environment can change.

    When you compare the Sunni method to the Shiah method - its not surprising seeing all hell breaking loose with stupid fatwas being announced.

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    Have you ever thought to make use of 'a burden that it cannot bear' as far as saying, hey, big al wouldn't 'burden' me with this 'test' (which is what a generous Muslim will call someone's gayness) without also allowing or forgiving me for taking the means to relieve it.  which is not a stance that I personally like, but one that might marginally appeal to some Muslims.


    Well, at the end of the day I find that those who don't like gays and are Muslim - still wouldn't like them if they were atheist or something else. The religion would change but the view wouldn't - just the mode in which they express their opinion. If they're an atheist they would make up some pseudo scientific justification.

    As Reza Aslan noted - Religion is a language people use to transmit ideas.

    "It's just a job. Grass grows, birds fly, waves pound the sand. I beat people up." - Muhammad Ali
  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #16 - October 20, 2009, 05:01 PM

    I used to argue against homosexuality as a Muslim based on the religious texts. I don't know anymore whether I hated gays, but I think I had a similar attitude to them as I had to other types of sinners (like fornicators, adulterers, alcoholics etc.) I understood that changing your sexuality was extremely difficult, but I was somehow convinced that some could manage this with the help of Allah.

    Now that I'm free of superstitions (religions are included,) I've changed my views about gay people dramatically. I completely support their human rights. They should be and dress as they wish and they should be allowed to marry and even to raise children.  Afro

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #17 - October 20, 2009, 06:38 PM

    My oldest and best buddy is gay, non-muslim, and has known my family since school. When he came out at 16, when my dad got to hear about it, it was like i had done something shameful by just having a gay friend, and the fact that he was Jewish didn't help at all. On the few times they met, they suffered his presence with fixed grins, a certain ex muslim here included, and then after he was gone, it was like ; 'It's such a shame about Paul, that he's going to burn in hell, he's such a nice person otherwise.'

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #18 - October 20, 2009, 11:29 PM

     Cheesy Gotta love religion. I can just imagine them saying that over tea and crumpets.  grin12

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  • Re: Gay Muslimahs
     Reply #19 - October 21, 2009, 10:47 AM

    Muslims in the past used to look at the Tanakh for clarification (noted in Hans Kung: Islam - Past, Present and Future) - as a Muslim one is meant to believe in the previous revelations. So it isn't as though I'd be bringing in a new idea (unfortunately some have used that cross referencing to pull on has resulted in an anti-gay interpretation of the Qur'an).


    Yes, one believes that they were true, once upon a time, one believes that they were pure revelation when Big Al sent them down, but one does not look to them for shari rulings now that we have the q & s.  I've yet to ever read a text where a scholar referenced any part of the Wholly Babble.  Then again, 10 years of study didn't even get me close to the ocean of propaganda one must immerse oneself in in order to be considered a scholar or ustaz of any note or merit.  

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    As for hadith; lets not try and kid ourselves - all the scholars pick and choose; the excuses are different though. They'll say "chain of narratives not strong" and I will say, "its a load of bollocks - lets ignore it" - the net result is the same.


    Of course they do, but within that there is a consistency. What I'm getting is that you advocate saying who cares about the isnaad, let's throw the whole lot of them out, unless they make us feel warm and fuzzy inside.  As an Alevi you don't practice ritual salat, correct?  What about fasting in the day time during Ramadan and some of the other mainstream practices?  So are you more of a quran only type of person, taking the hadiths here and there that sound really nice?  Question, also, are you of the Bektashi persuasion?  I remember  many years ago when I began studying sufism reading a book that delved into homosexuality among the Bektashis.  I don't remember the book now, but it was by one of these westerners who is so in love with sufism and he was a member of one of the tariqat. 

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    Shiah (which Alevi are considered to be part of) don't view every hadith is infallible nor always applicable given that the environment can change.


    But the imams are infallible, and I wouldn't think that ali or jaafar siddiq or any of the rest of them were big fans of man on man lovin'.  Shiah Islam is fairly clear on the issue of homosexuality, although I would think that your view is that Alevism, or your understanding of it, must diverge from other groups of Shiah on this and perhaps other issues.  So as an Alevi, then, do you challenge this view of ali being masoom, do you say 'Well he and mo were really great, except on this and that issue?'  Do you also say, 'Hey those people who transmitted nahj al balagha (or any of these other texts and sayings attributed to the imams), they got things wrong, they changed it, we don't know if that's really what he said?'

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    When you compare the Sunni method to the Shiah method - its not surprising seeing all hell breaking loose with stupid fatwas being announced.


    I would not be so quick to crow about the superiority of the shiah method.  One can see the happy results of Shiah jurisprudence on the lives of Shiah women in Afghanistan, for example.  

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    Well, at the end of the day I find that those who don't like gays and are Muslim - still wouldn't like them if they were atheist or something else. The religion would change but the view wouldn't - just the mode in which they express their opinion. If they're an atheist they would make up some pseudo scientific justification.


    That is fine, maybe it is true and maybe it is not.  It's quite hard to decide what someone would be were it not for the influence of patriarchal, heteronormative, imperialist religion on his or her brain. Maybe it's what you need to say to yourself in order to stay a Muslim, I don't know.  We have a member here who justified it - being Muslim and gay - until the cows came home.  Or rather, until he woke up.  

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    As Reza Aslan noted - Religion is a language people use to transmit ideas.


    Personally I think he's full of crap in general.  A saying like that is what religious people tell themselves in order to make it seem like religion is relevant and necessary in today's world, imo.

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