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  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #540 - May 18, 2013, 04:50 PM
    Quote from: Dr_Zhivago on May 18, 2013, 04:05 PM
    Cool, I hope you get some hits there (some good hits that is)


    Doubt it, I'm on some chat thing called Seddit! right now though.  Thanks though. Smiley
    "If a monster existed, it was buried deep within."
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #541 - May 18, 2013, 04:55 PM
    Quote from: Stardust on May 18, 2013, 04:40 PM
    I'm going out tonight, haven't been out partying in a couple of months. Tongue Clubs are generally not my thing, but it's nice to have an excuse to dress up now and then.  dance


    Pfft clubbing.  Shitty music puts me off.  Prefer getting drunk at the house (yeah sad I know, yada yada) or gigs or house parties etc. got birthday coming up though, I wanna give this baby a try, been meaning to for a while now:



    Tried Maker's Mark a while back as well, and Glenfiddich and Johnnie Walker... AWH YEAH! So many more to try.  Once I get my own place, I'll make a secret room with a collection (and a library of kaffir books too of course!)  dance
    "If a monster existed, it was buried deep within."
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #542 - May 18, 2013, 05:08 PM
    ^I'm not huge on clubbing either, or drinking. It's ok occasionally with friends.

    I still can't get over that guilty feeling I get about going out etc (dressing up unislamically, drinking etc). :<
    "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." - Viktor E. Frankl

    'Life is just the extreme expression of complex chemistry' - Neil deGrasse Tyson
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #543 - May 18, 2013, 05:23 PM
    Im not much of a club goer but I stopped going there because it was becoming more of a sausage fest and most women are high maintenance hookers. Things have changed here.
    "I'm standing here like an asshole holding my Charles Dickens"

    "No theory,No ready made system,no book that has ever been written to save the world. i cleave to no system.."-Bakunin
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #544 - May 18, 2013, 05:55 PM
    Quote from: Stardust on May 18, 2013, 05:08 PM
    ^I'm not huge on clubbing either, or drinking. It's ok occasionally with friends.

    I still can't get over that guilty feeling I get about going out etc (dressing up unislamically, drinking etc). :<


    Yeah took me about 2 years to finally feel guilt free - it was a gradual process, and started at university.  Alcohol tasted disgusting at first, I started with lager lol - bad idea.  Then cider, then eventually all sorts of drinks.  If I do go out (rarely anymore) then I make sure that I'm not included in any pics... I hate how everyone keeps taking pictures and uploading on Facebook, I find it stupid.

    Same with pork basically, although strangely I felt less guilty with haram foods and started eating them earlier.

    @Cato, I know what you mean! Cheesy

    Honestly, pubs are a lot better.
    "If a monster existed, it was buried deep within."
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #545 - June 08, 2013, 12:13 PM
    I'd love to meet an date an ex-muslim girl, i probably won't find a better partner match than someone from a similar background.  I feel intellectually and mentally isolated around muslims and care-free non-muslims.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #546 - June 08, 2013, 12:55 PM
    Quote from: Pishte_Kooh on June 08, 2013, 12:13 PM
    I'd love to meet an date an ex-muslim girl, i probably won't find a better partner match than someone from a similar background.  I feel intellectually and mentally isolated around muslims and care-free non-muslims.

    One day I hope you'll be enough at peace with yourself to widen your net a little.

    I'm a carefree non-Muslim, but I'd hate to spend my life with a mirror image of myself. What is there to learn from that?

    (I've married 'outside my culture' incidentally.)
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #547 - June 08, 2013, 06:30 PM
    ^Agreed.  Although they'll have to be atheist at least, if not an ex-Muslim.
    "If a monster existed, it was buried deep within."
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #548 - June 08, 2013, 08:26 PM
    I maintain that islam made me carefree and drove me to the worst kind of nihilism conceivable. But anyway, i feel that your statement is crypto-fascist and supportive of class division.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #549 - June 08, 2013, 08:33 PM
    ^ Elaborate.
    "If a monster existed, it was buried deep within."
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #550 - June 08, 2013, 08:44 PM
    Quote from: David on June 08, 2013, 12:55 PM
    One day I hope you'll be enough at peace with yourself to widen your net a little.

    I'm a carefree non-Muslim, but I'd hate to spend my life with a mirror image of myself. What is there to learn from that?

    (I've married 'outside my culture' incidentally.)


    I dunno, I don't particularly want a mirror image of myself, but I do want to share a huge amount of similar interests or at least be with someone capable of world switching and able to handle a conversation about stuff I'm interested in.

    So a pale reflection of myself would be nice.

    But I do agree with you, my net is wider than ex muslims, since I don't need that understanding or connection and it doesn't really add much for me.

    S
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #551 - June 08, 2013, 09:00 PM
    Why hello there BerberElla, wanna get drunk together? Wink

    Thus far this line has never worked as expected in my head :( are you kind enough to be the first? 

    cheers
    "If a monster existed, it was buried deep within."
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #552 - June 08, 2013, 09:04 PM
     sloshed  Now that's the drunk smiley lol can you handle it Wink
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #553 - June 08, 2013, 09:21 PM
    Well my statement was directed at pishte_kooh.

    1) when i realised that islamic theology was contradictory and inconsistent and lost my faith, i lost the will to please others (i don't want to get into why i can't separate myself from my islamic family). Dependence equates to an inability to feel confidence in oneself as a character. If you're not confident of who you are, if you're constantly acting like an automaton, the body becomes mobilised for pleasure, all you want is for the pain to disappear. You will either resort to religion's surrogate brother or contemplate what religion so mercilessly vilifies. I'm sure I speak for all of us here when i say that this is not conducive to bettering human nature.

    2) going out, drinking and partying is fundamentally conservative insofar as it placates societal discontent. That's not to say that higher strata don't indulge in such passtimes, but you rarely see them going about it with fervour.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #554 - June 08, 2013, 09:46 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on June 08, 2013, 09:04 PM
    sloshed  Now that's the drunk smiley lol can you handle it Wink


    Currently on the strongest cider available in England, and still going... Wink

    The real question is, can you handle me! (Ugh that sounds fucking cringe, oh well)  sloshed cheers 001_wub
    "If a monster existed, it was buried deep within."
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #555 - June 08, 2013, 09:49 PM
    AWH YEAH! THIS THREAD WORKS!

    I've put you into a situation of dilemma here BerberElla (hmm... may I call you Ella?  Phwoar), you must show the CEMB crowd that this thread is making progress!

    -.-
    "If a monster existed, it was buried deep within."
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #556 - June 08, 2013, 10:13 PM
    Anyone have any tips in finding open atheists in the Bible Belt?
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #557 - June 09, 2013, 12:29 AM

    Quote from: Final Fantasy on June 08, 2013, 06:30 PM
    ^Agreed.  Although they'll have to be atheist at least, if not an ex-Muslim.


    Yeah, I'll admit here that it would be awesome to find an ex Muslim woman.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #558 - June 09, 2013, 04:17 AM
    Quote from: BerberElla on June 08, 2013, 08:44 PM
    So a pale reflection of myself would be nice.

    What with you being so incredibly sparkly.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #559 - June 09, 2013, 04:20 AM
    Quote from: schizo on June 08, 2013, 09:21 PM
    That's not to say that higher strata don't indulge in such passtimes, but you rarely see them going about it with fervour.

    In my experience the higher strata go at it harder than anyone else.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #560 - June 09, 2013, 04:59 AM
    Quote from: asbie on June 08, 2013, 10:13 PM
    Anyone have any tips in finding open atheists in the Bible Belt?


    Grin

    I'm at a point where I tell myself "fuck it,Life is too short, Imma compromise and date any muslimah or christian chick that I find attractive and deal with any religious bullshit that comes later". The only problem is that what if you guys decide to settle down, how are you going to handle with raising children concerning beliefs?

    I mean, for me looking for an open atheist or an ex-muslimah can be a time-wasting effort,bit restrictive if you ask me and the experience of dating one could also be overrated,not that I have anything against y'all my forum sisters,I like y'all Smiley but you may get the notion that you guys have something in common just because you're both ex-muslims or atheists yet later on when you start to know each other more, you will find out you don't actually have anything in common but beliefs which can be a real bummer.... Well, they are some that I share varying similar interests with(and even complete similar interest) but for someone that is based at sub-saharan Africa, I can't really stress myself on that.
    "I'm standing here like an asshole holding my Charles Dickens"

    "No theory,No ready made system,no book that has ever been written to save the world. i cleave to no system.."-Bakunin
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #561 - June 09, 2013, 05:08 AM
    Quote from: happymurtad on June 09, 2013, 12:29 AM
    Yeah, I'll admit here that it would be awesome to find an ex Muslim woman.

     

    Have you been to the muslimish ex muslim meeting they have down in the United States.

    They have like real life murtads down there.   cool2

    here is teh links to the meet up sites in Michigan and New York     

    http://muslimishblog.wordpress.com/

    http://www.councilofexmuslims.com/index.php?topic=23623.msg691125#new
    In my opinion a life without curiosity is not a life worth living
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #562 - June 09, 2013, 12:12 PM
    Quote from: Cato on June 09, 2013, 04:59 AM
    Grin


    I mean, for me looking for an open atheist or an ex-muslimah can be a time-wasting effort,bit restrictive if you ask me and the experience of dating one could also be overrated,not that I have anything against y'all my forum sisters,I like y'all Smiley but you may get the notion that you guys have something in common just because you're both ex-muslims or atheists yet later on when you start to know each other more, you will find out you don't actually have anything in common but beliefs which can be a real bummer.... Well, they are some that I share varying similar interests with(and even complete similar interest) but for someone that is based at sub-saharan Africa, I can't really stress myself on that.



    It's the same as finding a mate in any other scenario. You want some one with some sorts of things in common so you can relate to each other, but you don't want a mirror image of yourself. Just being an ex Muslim isn't nearly enough, but an ex Muslim with your other preference boxes ticked as well would be nice.

    We need to do more anti-dawah so we can increase the pool of ex muslims to choose from, lol.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #563 - June 09, 2013, 01:29 PM
    Quote
    but you don't want a mirror image of yourself.

    Speak for yourselves. I would marry myself if I could!
    I don't need anybody else. When I think about me I touch myself whistling2
    Quote from: ZooBear 

    • Surah Al-Fil: In an epic game of Angry Birds, Allah uses birds (that drop pebbles) to destroy an army riding elephants whose intentions were to destroy the Kaaba. No one has beaten the high score.

  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #564 - June 09, 2013, 01:59 PM
    Quote
    We need to do more anti-dawah so we can increase the pool of ex muslims to choose from, lol.


    You might wanna focus on West Africa and East Africa if you want to increase your chances. Grin
    "I'm standing here like an asshole holding my Charles Dickens"

    "No theory,No ready made system,no book that has ever been written to save the world. i cleave to no system.."-Bakunin
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #565 - June 09, 2013, 02:24 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on June 08, 2013, 08:44 PM
    So a pale reflection of myself would be nice.


    That's racist yo.  whistling2
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #566 - June 09, 2013, 02:28 PM
    Quote from: happymurtad on June 09, 2013, 12:12 PM
    We need to do more anti-dawah so we can increase the pool of ex muslims to choose from, lol.


    Takebeer! What amazing motivating tools you have concocted for us, oh great winged angel hallucinating one. Allahusnackbar!
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #567 - June 09, 2013, 05:02 PM
    Anyone tried dating with a muslim whilst being an ex-muslim before you met.
    I'm curious to know if it is worth the effort. I know some nice muslim women but the whole religion situation is holding me back, culturally it would be ok but the level of religious devotion puts me off from making a move.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #568 - June 09, 2013, 05:06 PM
    It's going to sound discriminating, but for a long term relationship, i want someone from the same or a similar cultural background. I'm still quite attached to my part of the world. And I'm assuming the majority of ex-muslims are middle-eastern/south-asian/south-central asian/North-east african. But that isn't because of racist reasons, but because i can see myself in their mentality, more easily. Most native people i've meet in europe and the west in general, either have no interest or no appreciation, or only vapid interest for my cultural background. I see it as sort of below me to have to become a model for some illusions or some vapid fascination they have with minorities. That might sound prejudiced, but that is my experience.
  • The meeting & dating thread (exmuslims & extheists need only apply)
     Reply #569 - June 09, 2013, 06:10 PM
    It's understandable that you would be comfortable with that which you can relate to easier. I would like ideally to find someone with south asain background but it is low down on the list of what I look for. Mostly for me its the values the person holds and there priorities.

    For instance with in the long term I want someone I can talk to about anything, someone who is smarter than me (wouldn't take much lol) who I can learn from and hopefully teach. Your never gonna find an exact match and comprimises will have to be made, so someone who understands that is essentail.
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