In this day and age, very few people maintain self respect and restraint, so finding a girl who chooses not to have sex until marriage is a very special woman,
This is the problem I have with those who fetishise the hymen. This (very common) rhetoric suggests that any woman who has sex before marriage is automatically lacking any "self respect and restraint". They're usually the same ones who'd congratulate their male comrades for fucking as many 'bitches' as possible.
I don't go about shitting on adult virgins and call them, say, neurotics. Everyone's different. But when some virgins (or virginity fetishists) make their plea, they tend to shit on the rest of us for no good reason.