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  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #150 - September 03, 2013, 05:29 PM
    Couldn't get through it all. Seems like it was written by a 14 year old.
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #151 - September 03, 2013, 06:14 PM
    Quote from: happymurtad on September 03, 2013, 04:37 PM
    Thoughts, people?


    Complete garbage, no evidence, and highly disparaging to both sexes.
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  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #152 - September 03, 2013, 06:54 PM
    Quote from: ChinaDoll on June 19, 2011, 03:59 PM
    when I am around male friends I can't help but develop feelings for them.


    Fancy being friends? Wink
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #153 - September 05, 2013, 12:26 AM
    Quote from: happymurtad on September 03, 2013, 04:37 PM
    Thoughts, people?



    Wish there had been a précis in 250 words, or letting you know the total pages turned, I stopped reading after finding that the author had used a better example of my hypothetical attractive female friend - he (I presume) uses the scenario of room and the friend walking in naked, which compared to my garb for the genitals is much more apt.
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #154 - September 05, 2013, 12:33 AM
    Quote from: Quod Sum Eris on September 03, 2013, 12:33 AM
    So over and over and over she does or tries to wank me off. I can't give a blanket yes or no. It really would depend on the girl and my relationship with her. See my above posts.


    Right - Situation 1 is no longer applicable - female friends before puberty has visited either of you - don't count. Why? Because I/we are talking about friends you make after you have your lead in the pencil, because imo it more likely at that time you will choose to spend your time making friends, if you have to, with females who you would generally think 'look kool'.

    Also forget the wank (that must be my trigger lol) the scenario is room and your friend walks in butt naked. Surely you would want to help your friend out? Even if took a couple of hours agonising decision - to show them how much of a gentleman you are.
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #155 - September 05, 2013, 01:06 AM
    Actually I'd hit puberty with situation one girl. This is answered in situation two and three, although nudity doesn't bother me so I wouldn't be uncomfortable unless situation three after it's become platonic they tried it on.
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #156 - September 05, 2013, 07:24 AM
    Question: WTF is with this classification of the sexes being "opposite"? I've never noticed anything that would indicate total opposites. There are some differences, but also a lot of similarities, and in general the term "complementary" seems more accurate than "opposite", regardless of which sex you happen to belong to and which you are referring to.
    Devious, treacherous, murderous, neanderthal, sub-human of the West. bunny
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #157 - September 05, 2013, 10:01 AM
    Quote from: happymurtad on September 03, 2013, 04:37 PM
    Thoughts, people?


    Yes, the language he uses is foul. It’s written very poorly and I don’t approve of him calling women whores obviously but I do think it holds some truth to it and can be applied to the majority of people. Besides its language, I don’t see how the theory itself is offensive; it touches upon sexual selection, biological fitness and the laws of attraction.

    From a biological view, I don’t think men and women were meant to be just friends. From what I’ve observed and experienced I can only confirm it. All of my male friends have at some point or another been interested in me sexually – that might sound vain or whatever – but I think once that kind of attraction has been there it’s hard to revert back to being just friends. To me, that’s pretty self-evident. However, I do believe this is changing, that we’re evolving away from that.
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #158 - September 05, 2013, 10:38 AM
    I'd put a lot of the problems females and males (alike) face with regards to forming friendships down to post-christian sexuality. I can't conceivably devise an intellectual manner in which to naturalise the idea of sexuality.

    Then again, friendships are very constipated today. In Europe from my experiences certainly.
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #159 - September 05, 2013, 01:30 PM
    Quote from: asbie on September 02, 2013, 07:15 PM
    Just a pet peeve of mine, but that phrase doesn't even mean anything.


    Quote from: Quod Sum Eris on September 02, 2013, 07:53 PM
    Agreed. If there are exceptions then it proves it's not the rule.


    You're both using a different meaning of the word "prove" then how it is meant in that phrase:

    http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/prove

    Definition of PROVE
    transitive verb
    1
    archaic : to learn or find out by experience
    2
    a : to test the truth, validity, or genuineness of <the exception proves the rule> <prove a will at probate>
    b : to test the worth or quality of; specifically : to compare against a standard —sometimes used with up or out
    c : to check the correctness of (as an arithmetic result)
    fuck you
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #160 - September 06, 2013, 11:43 AM
    Quod - are your female friends hideous?
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #161 - September 06, 2013, 09:08 PM
     015
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #162 - September 07, 2013, 10:18 PM
    Quote from: Capricasix on September 05, 2013, 10:01 AM
    Yes, the language he uses is foul. It’s written very poorly and I don’t approve of him calling women whores obviously but I do think it holds some truth to it and can be applied to the majority of people. Besides its language, I don’t see how the theory itself is offensive; it touches upon sexual selection, biological fitness and the laws of attraction.

    From a biological view, I don’t think men and women were meant to be just friends. From what I’ve observed and experienced I can only confirm it. All of my male friends have at some point or another been interested in me sexually – that might sound vain or whatever – but I think once that kind of attraction has been there it’s hard to revert back to being just friends. To me, that’s pretty self-evident. However, I do believe this is changing, that we’re evolving away from that.



    All of your male friends? Lo maybe their is something about you, rather than them. Why have them as friends? what help/aid/enjoyment they give you? How do you deal with it when the subject is broached or is the topic of sex in general strictly of limits - one way of handling it. Or you are  just a nice girl who can't be cruel. Scrub all of this if you are university.
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #163 - September 07, 2013, 10:31 PM
    Quote from: Quod Sum Eris on September 06, 2013, 09:08 PM
    015


    LOL. It was straight up question. perhaps you have the ability to make friends with females without giving second thoughts to their 'appeal'. perhaps you do not objectify? perhaps you are asexual? Whatever it is - I wouldn't be the norm. You probably represent one end of the spectrum whilst our friend Selltek represents the other with the rest falling in between. Personally if one of my friends walked naked into the room, I don't know honestly what would happen, I say here that I would do it, but in reality who knows, I would want to know why, it is not like it would affect the friendship, which have been going on years.

    Though one of my exes from 17year ago, a channel900 girl, recently split up from a boyfriend of nigh on 13 years and because I have already had sex with her as opposed to others (where I haven't) I do hope there might be some action, her voice did sound nice on the ansaphone lol.

    Whatever - congratulations for overcoming a billion years of evolution. I would say the same thing to someone who professes zero tribalism - say to the extent if he was a Scot, it would not make a blind bit of difference that Andy Murray won Wimbledon. Like absolutely no groupthink.

    I call these people sorta 'posthumans' in my little theory that for any meaningful evolution in humans should be a step away from animals - therefore men and women can be friends, people have zero racism/tribalism oh and they are vegetarians.

    Unfortunately, these people are rare yet and right now that is not the real world.
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #164 - September 07, 2013, 11:14 PM
    I've already went into this. No I'm not asexual, I'm straight, I have a sex drive, and I enjoy sex. I'm just not a walking hard-on. Saying I'm one end of the spectrum, I know plenty of bisexual or heterosexual people who have best friends of the opposite sex and it's purely platonic. I've already said this but let me try again.

    I'm in my mid 20s. Let's say you're a woman of a similar age, 20-27. I'm attracted to you, we get talking, we get on but you don't find me attractive. That's fine, it doesn't bother me. If we get on we can be friends, maybe we'll even become close friends, and if I know for a fact you don't fancy me, fine. Presuming we do get on and after a while we have a good friendship, I'll lose my attraction for you. As you don't fancy me (and I know this) I won't think of you as a possible lover, and I'm secure enough in myself that I can accept you don't feel that way and it's never going to happen. We're just friends. And that's fine. I'll look elsewhere.
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #165 - September 07, 2013, 11:25 PM
    talk to me when you are in your forties. and dude - don't pass up any chance of having sex. Wish I wasn't such a fussy fucker. You know why - well they say the top regret of dying old people is that - they wish they had had more sex.
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #166 - September 07, 2013, 11:30 PM
    How exactly does your comment relate to me being able to have friendships with women?
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #167 - September 07, 2013, 11:37 PM
    fella, I have accepted that YOU can have friendships with women. I have to or else call you a liar. All these people you say loving having platonic relationships, they would say that, you ask them, if they also don't objectify? choose their friendship not based on some sort 'appeal?'

    It was general advice. Wish someone had told me when I was in my mid-twenties.

    But the jury on the question that can men and women be friends in exactly the same way that straight - fuck why do I have to write straight, 95plus% blokes are straight - men can be, is still out. You can't say men and women can be friends on you personal experience, you can be, but not the hoi polloi, don't fool them.
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #168 - September 08, 2013, 12:00 AM
    I don't' say "all these people" I just said I know some people who are like that. I'm perfectly happy to state I know other people that flat out cannot have a friendship with the opposite sex to the point they wouldn't jump at the chance to hop into bed with them even if they don't expect it to happen. All I've really said is that if I do fancy them when we first meet but I know it's not going to happen I get over it.
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #169 - September 08, 2013, 12:13 AM
    Quote from: Quod Sum Eris on September 08, 2013, 12:00 AM
    All I've really said is that if I do fancy them when we first meet but I know it's not going to happen I get over it.


    Sorry dude - you indeed have said this consistently and I have and I haven't addressed it. Wasn't on purpose, just the time of the month. So you do like them, ok, and when you know it is not going to happen you get over it? Cool, most rounded-off, level-headed men, know their pecking place and would do the same. But you do have muscle memory, the girl in question at some point must have antagonised it at some primal level, and you are presented with the scenario of her walking naked into your room wanting sex - but you would disappoint your friend, because now she is your friend the idea of sex with her repulses you. Liar lol. 
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #170 - September 08, 2013, 12:43 AM
    This would come back to what I said about mental/emotional association. You've never had a none sexual relationship with an attractive woman to the point you don't associate her with sex? It never becomes more akin to a brother/sister relationship or something similar?
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #171 - September 08, 2013, 10:46 PM
    Saw a female friend, I said I was talking about this topic, she say You can , I say ahh but the scenario is you walk in naked wanting sex, She said -you would run away lol, also that that ain't happening. As to associating a female friend with sex, dude if you back on this thread, a long time ago, it was discussed that this was not a 24/7 thing, I said it was once or twice a year ting, especially when they are back on the market. But yes it does look different from being a quarter of a century old. Ya could easily sleep with a friend in the same bed, no probs, slept/enjoyed the come-down of a two day bender with two females friends, no probs, it would be a little different now.

    I wish I had had attractive friends, nah I had something wrong with me, they had to be drop-dead gorgeous, make two black dudes in Leicester Square drop their jaws cartoon style gorgeous. Like their is a difference between attractive and beautiful/gorgeous, beautiful/gorgeous are a different tribe, should have settled with the lovely and attractive. For instance say Charlize Theoron(?) is a beautiful woman but Emma Stone would be lovely and attractive. Attractive would have been good.

    Though only have myself to blame. Having perfection and dumping it.

    As to the sister/brother thing - fella I would sleep as an adult with a female but not my sister and if my sister walked into the room naked lol.
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #172 - September 08, 2013, 11:07 PM
    I'm certainly not repulsed by the idea of sex with my attractive female friends. It's just not an ever present issue that gets in the way of our friendship.
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #173 - September 08, 2013, 11:19 PM
    I don't know who you are replying to, if at all to an individual, but if it is me. And I am saying that if this 'ever present issue' ever presented itself in a room when the devil is the third person. Lol
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #174 - September 08, 2013, 11:32 PM
    I'm not disagreeing with you. Just saying it doesn't get in the way of us being friends.
  • Friends with the opposite sex ?
     Reply #175 - September 12, 2013, 11:15 PM
    I thought I was rid off this thread. Just a thought came to me. Like I smoke, I don't run out of cigarettes, ever, though I only smoke seven-ten a day. If any random girl asks for a cigarette, I give, if it is an random guy (used to) go do one. Life is easier for prettier girls.

    One time had this dude ask me for a cigarette because he spotted me smoking, I says to him, gonna buy some, I am smoking my last one, he says - can I go two's on it wtf?? he was a foreigner, but still, must have handed out/been asked a thousand times for cigarettes (everyone has had a taste of my brand)never has someone said let me go twos on it.

    I say to him, what you gonna follow me up the road, wait till I finished. He didn't say anything, my look meant that he did not follow.
    I am my own worst enemy and best friend, itsa bit of a squeeze in a three-quarter bed, tho. Unhinged!? If I was a dog I would be having kittens, that is unhinged. Footloose n fancy free, forced to fit, fated to fly. One or 2 words, 3 and 3/thirds, looking comely but lonely, till I made them homely.D
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