UPDATE
so far only 4 people that i am close to knows about my apostasy, one is my elder brother, one was my best friend until i opened up to him about my apostasy which affects our relationship, now we dont even talk anymore. the rest of the two are my cousins
One of my cousins who learnt about my apostasy from the other cousin of mine came to visit me in my flat close to the university i attend last week, we started talking then the topic of my belief came up. he was curious to know why i became an atheist, initially i didnt want to tell him for fear of offending him, i even ask him does he really want to know why because if i tell him he will be offended by the things i will say. he said sure he will be able stomach it, i said ok. i told him how the evolution in science disprove the claim made my the qur'an that we humans descended from Adam and Hauwa(Eve), and the embryology topic which proves to me tht Qur'an is a man made. i also told him how i dont like the things that Mo did especially what he did to the Jews,enslaving women and raping them, and so on. at the end he still wants me to go back and study Islam more, i told him the more i study about Islam the more i disbelieve in it. yet he explained his worry that if the whole family finds out especially our relatives, im at the risk of comitting social suicide. and what if later on we have our own family and one day his children comes to ask him, "Daddy how did Uncle Naija became an atheist?", "why did he leave islam?". he thinks that such things like this will influence his children and some of my folks to follow my path and turn into an ex-muslim too. too bad it may be his worry because i will be delighted if such thing happens in the future
well as for my Elder brother who once snitched on me before, we still havent had a any problem for the last two months, he seemed cool about it but i still dont trust him because of what he did in the past. for now im still watching him and being cautious whenever im around him.
Yeah, cos like that should stop you from doing what you need to do. That argument..."Think of the children". Yep, go back to Islam for the sake of children yet to be born, that makes no sense to me that sort of thinking.
I can't wait for the day my nieces and nephews start to wonder about me, their aunty that left Islam.
Infact this is sort of eerie, but I too have an aunt that no one talks to.
She ran away from morocco in the 70's and moved to spain, she got tattoos, left Islam, eats pork, married a non muslim, raised non muslim children. No one in the family spoke to her anymore.
When I was growing up, the reason I knew about her was because I was always compared to her. People would say "you remind me of you aunty Naima, but she shamed the family. You look so much like her and behave so much like her, don;t shame the family"
This always made me curious about her, I used to wonder who she was.
Is it not ironic that I am now that tattooed aunty who is the black sheep of the family that no one speaks of anymore?
So yeah, look forward to that day. Fact is there is total truth, ex muslims do create fitna.
Once you introduce that rebellious element into a tight system, and you allow that rebellious element to remain, the system will begin to crumble. Slowly, but yes, it will happen.
People look to their peers for confirmation at times of their moral choices, if all of those peers are muslim its harder to judge what is normal, and indeed what other choices you could possibly have. If those peers are mixed, there is a wider variety for social comparisons.
I find it fascinating, and very comparative that the old conformity and obedience experiments found the one rebel breaks down group conformity, and that when the participants were asked after why they conformed/obeyed, they said "I didn't know I had another choice".
We are the other choice. Our views. That is why they are dangerous sadly.
Topic: An Infidel living in the midst of dogmatic followers