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Reply #30 - May 02, 2012, 09:18 AM

Quote from: Da_Dude on May 01, 2012, 05:09 AM

You will survive.

Much love,

From your future self.

Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
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Reply #31 - May 06, 2012, 04:42 AM

dear me in the past

don't think to much of god and afterlife, don't do stupid thing to yourself, the future is unknown, it doesn't mean sadness always, let it be that way, enjoy yourself every moment more in life rather than hating it, say thanks to strangest dudes, this forum and cember for this thread and it's insight of similarity to life experience, and hey, to future me, you better socialize more, buy a drink for yourself or two, I'm craving cider
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Reply #32 - May 14, 2012, 02:34 PM

Dear Bel,

These dark days will come and go, but you will make it through each time

The things you think you want, that you should have, are not all real, some are illusions of what you want because of the life you've had, without exposure to the world. There is so much of the world to see and experience and you are barely on the tip of the ice berg.Life isn't black and white, people aren't black and white, there are so many shades of grey and you've only come across a few pixels.

People are more like you than you imagine, and that's a good thing, take comfort that you are part of bigger picture, no matter how little, insignificant and 'weird' you feel.

Don't be sad that you haven't reached where you imagined you would be within some time period. Some things in life you have to go through, to learn lessons and each of us with different routes to take and places to go. Reading books and watching movies, documentaries will never give you the same enriched understand that comes from truly allowing yourself to connect with other people. Reach out more.

You will soon discover (or probably just recently) Richard Feynman, a brilliant man and he has more to teach you years later. A simple message. 'You don't have to be good because people think you will be good' You don't have to prove to people anything to be who you are. You have more choice than you can imagine, you just need some people and some opportunities to open your mind.

Choose to be happy, don't despair when things aren't going the way you wanted them to, life isn't static, changes happen sooner or later.

You're life isn't just about work, although at that stage in your life there seems nothing else that can bring you happiness in any form other than being brilliant in work. You will discover how love really feels like, and how much love you're capable of giving, how crazy love can make you. Don't give up on yourself, your family loves you more than you realise and in a way you will understand some day. You can learn to forgive them for ways they've hurt you as see the a larger portion of the 'bigger picture' of life.

Never forget you're beautiful on the inside and that's the only thing that matters you don't need anything to justify your right to live. The universe created you, as she shall take you back some day, but inbetween learn explore, I know there's a little explorer in you, ready for adventures, well life is one big adventure and it begins at your doorstep, you don't have to be rich and travel the world to be an explorer.

Open your heart more, show the people you care about that you do, nobody is around forever, and let them care about you, and nothing is gained by closing yourself off, to 'protect' yourself.

Stay chirpy! ^_^

Continue to learn and grow

Live Long and Prosper

PS.. you'll always be a romantic till the end...all attempts to change that will be futile!

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Reply #33 - May 14, 2012, 03:52 PM

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You need to read this book.
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Reply #34 - May 16, 2012, 12:22 AM

i cant do it right now. Im trying and keep erasing
the letter. maybe another day

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Reply #35 - June 03, 2012, 07:14 PM

Oi kid,

You're an idiot. You're arrogant and pretentious, you're a serial liar, you are the most impractical person I have ever met and you seem to think that just because you've found something you'll love for the rest of your life that it'll all come easy. You ain't seen nothing yet.

You understand and observe things that a lot of people don't, and you can explain them well when given half a chance. You've come further than anyone expected you to; remember waaaaay back, when they said you shouldn't do KS1 SATs because you were too quiet and unresponsive not to be retarded in some form? and now you happen to have done your AS levels like everyone else. You have a lot to prove, but you've already proven a lot. You will be a fucking fantastic sociologist, because you already are a fucking fantastic sociologist when you do what you do, which is watch rather than argue.

The odds are against you, as they always have been. Good luck, arsehole.

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Reply #36 - June 15, 2013, 12:57 AM

Hey A,

Lifes gonna be great, love the ones who love you most now, enjoy their company.
A lot of them wont be there when you're old, and the ones who will,will be older, you will miss their passion and strength. But they will still love you.

Life is too short, you will get old.

Dont over work, dont let money and life run you. The poverty your parents faced wont be that much of an issue for you,

Live a life thats true to yourself.

Dont let the bastards grind you down, its all bullshit anyway.

Keep hold of your friends, they disappear.

Dont wind anybody up, talk to everyone sweetly.

Your marriage will break down let it go, you will want to keep it together for the kids, because there might be hope... but it will just tear you apart. Hurt the both of you and destroy the kids childhood... let it go quickly.

Bad things will happen to you, but the pain you feel wont last forever.

Love love love your children.

Let yourself be happier.

Smile A.

Late Eid Mubarak, Where's my eidee present ?
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Reply #37 - July 19, 2013, 02:19 PM

Dear Quod Sum Eris,

if you're not a billionaire with a private island populated exclusively by slutty bi-curious girls young enough to be your daughter/granddaughter with tits the size of bowling balls, please have the common courtesy to travel back in time to this moment so I can backhand you for wasting my life.

Update. My future self just travelled back in time and as promised I backhanded me. I was really old and I knew I was going to backhand myself yet came anyway. Have I just committed suicide? Is it legal to hide my own dead body?

`But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
`Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad.'
`How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
`You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
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Reply #38 - July 19, 2013, 07:29 PM

Dear Berbs of the time this thread originally appeared.

I bet you didn't believe you would be here, in a place where you feel happy most of the time, in a place where you have finally quit smoking weed to escape how depressed you were. Well you made it. It wasn't just your luck, or waking up one day and finding the sun shining on your life, it was through you hard work and commitment that you made it here.

Think of all the different things you have challenged yourself to since this thread appeared, they seemed so impossible to you back then.

You went back to uni, you learned to socialise, maybe not as good as social people, but you got through an entire year of uni without being crushed by your social anxieties, and jesus that is saying something when I look back on the person you were then.

You not only did it, but you got yourself a first, can you imagine that? I bet you couldn't, you might have hoped for it, but let me tell you, that hope you felt, it's nothing compared to this satisfaction you feel now, or the optimism you feel now.

You learned how to drive, you aced your driving test first time round, and you bought a car.

You took yourself and the kids on holiday, yes, you did it. Even though you've always been afraid to take your eldest son on a holiday because of his disorder, you did it, and even though it was hard, you feel pleased you accomplished it and let me tell you, it was amazing, for you and for them. You rode a horse again, you even climbed a mountain with your children even though your terrified of heights, and now you are sitting here planning to visit the pyramids with them next year, something you wanted to do since you were a child and mythology was such a wonder to you.

Guess what else you managed? you managed to take your broken family and repair it. Sure, even now, in your future the kids still argue, but you know what? you aren't crying yourself to sleep at night anymore waiting for a professional to take your kids away. You actually believe in yourself as a good mum now. Doesn't that shock you? it still shocks me.

Your sickening mantra of 'you're worthless, you're nothing, you're no one', that mantra that was killing you back then, it's gone. You won't hear it anymore and your insomnia will become a thing of the past. In fact you will find yourself wishing it would come back because you fall asleep way too easily.

You even eat food now, and you eat chocolate. Sure not lots of it, but from what I remember of you, you weren't eating much at all.

You aren't hating yourself every minute of every day, because you go on to show yourself that you can do the things that seemed like dreams back then, not just that you can, but you will, and you did.

You aren't torn up over past rejections, or torn up over awful things people said or did to you, you've learned to let go and realise that it was no one's loss, not theirs not yours, it was all part of making you who you are today.

Today you don't feel like you need to please anyone, you don't feel like you have to be perfect, you don't waste time wondering about what could have been or what might have been, instead you've learned to aim for what you can do, and you've learned to work towards it.

So just hold on a little longer, you are going to be amazed at what is just around the corner. I know because I am still amazed. I'm so happy with where I am, I can't wait for you to get here.

Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
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Reply #39 - July 19, 2013, 07:45 PM
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Reply #40 - July 20, 2013, 12:58 AM

You're almost there. Just this weekend left and then a bit more of waiting, just a bit more patience. Give them no reason to cancel on you. I know you've been hiding and lying for most of your life and I don't blame you, I understand. You did it to protect yourself.

But when the time comes, you must not lie. Do not lie at all, whatsoever. Remember, give them no reason at all to deny you, they are the gatekeepers and they are guarding all the doors, holding all the keys. Tell them everything they want to know and need to know. Morality and ethics mean less than the cold hard truth. It is the truth that will ultimately set you free. It is the truth that will secure your future. It is the truth that will define this moment and decide the course of your future.

Show them that you can be trusted and that you can be loyal. And who knows, maybe it's a case of they need you as much as you need them.

Everything's going to be different now, and I am with you all the way as I have always been and will be.

Yours.

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Reply #41 - July 20, 2013, 03:21 PM

It's been a tough 6 months. You've gone from having everything you ever wanted to losing that. It'll be a long road back but don't worry, you're battle hardened now. Truth is no one apart from maybe a few people behind a screen will EVER know what you've been through, or even if they knew they could never understand.

Try not to be bitter about religion but recognise the toxic effects it had on you. The guilty conscience, the fear of Hell clouding all rational judgement, ending up pushing away someone that actually did love and care for you and did her utmost to try to help. I know you want to say so much to her, about how you were ruled by fear, how you're sorry, how you wish you could turn back the clock and actually apply your logic a bit but it's too late and you've said it all before. Let it go, it's over. Plus she hasn't been totally blameless.

Try not to be too vocal around your family and close friends either, especially your immediate family. Everything you do or say (especially with the gravity of your sentiments) will have reverberations around you. You've learnt a lot from this. Or at least you should have. The world does not revolve around you or your ideas, however much you'd like that to be the case.

Try not to be bitter towards your family for their part. They do truly love and care for you despite religious difference and they are going on what they know, and don't know as much as you remember, not on this topic. You weren't ready to fight the battle you needed to so had to surrender. No shame in that, you used the wrong tactics. Such is life. But remember that this life is now yours, try not to compromise yourself too much.

Look back and laugh, even though at the time and even to some degree now, there was nothing to laugh about. You're getting better, you no longer wake up and think about hanging yourself. Slow steps.

Now it's time to reclaim your life and discover yourself. You might be a little lonely, seeing as you've lost a ready made identity, but each time you feel emotionally drawn in think about why it makes sense not to believe. 90 foot tall men, men who slept for 100 years, winged horses, talking ants, people living in whales. Aside from the fantasy, the moral, wife beating (ok its a light tap and in special circumstances etc etc etc but no amount of apologetics is gonna deny the fact that domestic violence is sanctioned in a holy book), paedophilia (yes it was a custom at the time but it doesn't make it ANY less deplorable. Imagine your uncle or father doing such a thing, even to a girl who'd just reached menses and not necessarioly 9, you'd cut him off forever perhaps even physically harm him). Thik about evolution and how there's so many different viewpoints within the religion, ranging from creationism to Qur'anic compatiblity. God would not be so cruel as to not spell it out clearly. It's almost as if he wants to condemn people. Think about the doctrine of Hell that paralysed you, the graphic descriptions, the sheer barbarity of it all. Think about how were it not for religion, were it not for Islam, human beings would never ever think fellow human beings were deserving of such torture simply for disbelieving . It's sickening, it's insane. Think of the parralells with mythology and how there are rational explanations for them. Don't fall for the apologetic bullshit. Memorise the points you've made, so that if by some cruel twist of fate, it is actually all true, you can defend yourself.

Start by getting back in shape, you were in good nick before all of these shenanigans, then you became a 20 a day, junk food eating slob. It's one thing being bald, but it's not about being fat and bald. Find things which you love and bring you joy. Music, sport, comedy. Gain a deeper understanding of things you've learnt at a base level, ie biology, cosmology. Who would've thought you'd turn into a bit of a science geek?

You're not evil for disbelieving, no matter how much people might make you believe so. You can't blame them. They're programmed to defend things, identity politics plays a role especially in Britain. Just smile. You may be thought of as a 'coconut' a 'chamcha' but the beautiful thing is, you're human, nothing else. You define yourself, labels do not define you.

Don't read all those science books bro, you'll just get more confused.

That's funny. The more science I read, the less confused I get.
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Reply #42 - July 20, 2013, 03:27 PM

Finally, don't worry too much about finding a companion for now. You've been on a bit of a ride, you need to get yourself in order. You're already halfway there mentally, but relax. I know you feel she was perfect for you, but she's gone, never to return. Look ahead, don't look at what you've lost, look at what you've gained. It really may not seem like much now but I gurantee you'll look back and you won't feel the same way. Once you're secure and confident in yourself, the right one will arrive. Trust me.

Don't read all those science books bro, you'll just get more confused.

That's funny. The more science I read, the less confused I get.
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Reply #43 - July 20, 2013, 04:06 PM

^ You've described everything so accurately in a way I never could have, it was like flashbacks of the past 5 years. Just another month left for me in this toxic environment and then I never have to look back.

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Reply #44 - July 20, 2013, 09:29 PM

Dear Schizo

Continue to confound everyone with excessive verbiage and prolix syntactical construction. Oh, and, also, endeavour to pursue a romantic relationship with an ex-muslim who enjoys Foucault, Hegel, Marx, Nietzsche and electronic music, in that order, lest you are married off to someone who unknowingly exhibits the symptoms of institutionalised bovine culture — and is unable to escape.

Don't let the bourgeois bores trick you, hippy dippy love is only an illusion.

Now fuck off and purchase more reading material for your first dissertation.
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Reply #45 - July 21, 2013, 12:20 AM

I can relate to this now
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Reply #46 - July 21, 2013, 12:30 AM

Quote from: UberSlave on July 21, 2013, 12:20 AM
I can relate to this now

Couldn't help picturing Frank Gallagher.

`But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
`Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad.'
`How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
`You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
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Reply #47 - July 25, 2013, 11:50 AM

Dear Sir,

Pursuant to your letter of January the 15th, 2000, I write to confirm your eligibility for the qualifying heats of the 500-metre Olympic bollock-juggling event.

Good luck.

I beg to remain, Sir, your most humble and obedient servant, &c.,

Before it gets too late, you will find escape.
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Reply #48 - July 29, 2013, 01:54 PM

This is such a brilliant idea! I've started writing letters to myself when I first realised I wasn't Muslim. I wrote a letter to my future self, giving myself challenges and hopes fie the future. I had completely forgotten about it until a couple of years back and it really warmed my heart because I was going somewhere. I had taken off my hijab, I was more confident in my beliefs. So, I continued, I wrote again and his my letters (nosy family members) until the day I find it again.

When you notice the changes that happened, it really helps bring you more hope, I think.

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Reply #49 - July 29, 2013, 04:20 PM

Dear AM,

People say "In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take."

But to renounce Islam publicly is neither chances or choices. It is suicide. You have seen many of your fellow friends been treated like animal just because they have different ideas about god.

So AM, just be patient, be modest, be positive. Be a good person although you dont have any god to monitor you, no hell to be afraid of, no bullshit rituals you need to perform everyday.

After so many years, NOW your mind is free. For that alone is enough reason to be contented.

When one person suffers from a delusion, it is called insanity. When many people suffer from a delusion it is called a Religion.
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Reply #50 - April 16, 2014, 11:01 AM

Dear little me:
Don't trust anyone in the world you live in right now, they are all liars, and furthermore, they are dumber than you.
There's this thing called consent, it means you have the right to say no to things that you don't want. Especially when it comes to your body. Nobody will believe you when you complain, it'll be blamed on you, so don't bother.
The world hates women, learn to love yourself before it's too late.
Listen to more Manic Street Preachers.
Don't get on that plane after school breaks up or you won't be coming back for a few years.
You're smarter than you're allowed to be. People are afraid of that & that's why they want to destroy the thing that makes you better than them.
Seriously, don't trust any of them. For all the demands they make of you, ask yourself if they offer any of the same back to you.
They are not worth it.
The best revenge is success.
Love, Big Me
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Reply #51 - April 16, 2014, 11:04 AM

God, I can be so tragic sometimes
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Reply #52 - April 16, 2014, 12:36 PM

Dear Me,
Life is too short to worry about stupid things and stupid people. You just got to believe in yourself and work. Everything will be fine.

lol that's all
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