For myself I'd say I've grown into an attraction for women with darker skin.
I was quite a self hater towards my own colour for most of my life
guess that would be natural under that sort of pressure . Its only now in my 30s that I love my colour,
and am more attracted to non white women.
Funnily enough though, it was only towards women that earlier sexual preference was for the fairer skin, with men it was the reverse, I guess that's because I was taught it was women being brown that made them less attractive, and since I found it easy to apply that standard to myself and find myself wanting, it was easy to view other women as the same.
Thankfully I'm over that coconut phase of self hate.
This entire post just flabbergasted me.
And I am very :( in response to the bolded part.
To respond to this thread in general - I heard that we are all racist to some degree whether we know it or not, so I suppose we can't feel guilty about it.
I've always had a tendency toward white men -
for the most part - ever since I was very young (age 5). I don't know what it is, but being with someone who looks similar to me - or has dark brown/eyes, whether they are Latino or a fellow Egyptian, never did it for me. It almost feels brotherly. No... it is brotherly.
I used to laugh at my Mexican girl friend when she lightheartedly told me that she has this 'strict' policy to not date any Mexicans - which she claimed since Mexicans come from huge families, she wouldn't want to accidentally sleep with a distant relative
and now I practically feel the same way about my own kind, albeit not for that silly reason.
It's probably a mix of a complex (I also got the same thing Berbs - where being a "brown" - for me that's an inside mentality - or being a "Muslim woman" that somehow I wasn't "good enough" for White men or that they won't be attracted to me lol) for me, versus very early exposure, wanting the complete opposite of what my father looks like, and desiring something foreign... and simply, just finding that the men that turn me on the most tend to be the cliche blonde hair/blue-green eyes. It wasn't always like that either. I've liked the brown-haired-White-man too.
(but lately, a particular blond and green eyes man has my heart anyway:)
And yes, of course I've been attracted to a variety of different looks and ethnicities - my first kiss was Mexican, and I was very deeply attracted to him at the time. He's now engaged, and I'm no longer attracted to him - because of reasons of why we fell thru - but also, my tastes have changed - and I see a trend lately.
This has been on my mind lately. A white girl friend of mine exclusively dates non-whites. She's had several Hispanic boyfriends in the past, and now she has an Asian boyfriend. We discussed why that is - and it's funny because we're opposites in who we're attracted to. A white male friend of mine is just the same way - he likes Filipinos, Latinas, Middle Eastern.... etc. He actually just recently got a new girlfriend and she's...surprise, Puerto Rican. My girl friend tried to explain this to me - why she doesn't seem to be attracted to white men - and she said something like, she expects them to be the douche-y boy-next-door All-American type, and she's just not into that.
If both my friends are anything like me and have my same "reasoning" as to why we like who we like, it seems to be that is those we aren't attracted to resemble us too much, whether physically or culturally etc, that we can't like them because it's too familial.
Anyway, didn't mean to stir this topic towards interracial dating... but there you go.
Topic: Racism among fellow Muslims