Don't women naturally just want to feel pretty
Reply #19 - May 14, 2013, 02:35 PM
I think socialisation may have occurred.
For example, in the early days of being a parent it was just me and my son, from when he was 3 months old to when he was 3 as his father was in prison, during that time he didn't favour boys toys, infact when he was about 3 and half he was given an option to buy a toy of his choice because he had been so well behaved at his child minders, and he chose a barbie doll. His father flipped out, took the toy off him and gave it to his female cousin.
After that my son never chose a female doll at all.
In the early days I could put a pink T shirt on my son, and it didn't bother him, as he has grown up he refuses to have any pink, not even pink stripes on a navy blue tie I bought him once for a party he had at school.
I personally think when it was just me raising him, there was no boy or girl preferences, he was just himself, and then once his father became a man influence that he could see, he then learned to be different.
My daughter of course is harder to tell, because she was always around a woman, from young she has seen me, learnt from me.....and of course I went a bit crazy and always bought her pink stuff because I was so happy I had a girl.
However like I said, my first son was just with me, and I was very anti social, so his socialisation didn't involve a male influence until he started to see his dad regularly, and during that time he would still choose blue and pink, barbies and bob the builder. It was more what he liked, rather than what his gender needed to like.
Now he's 14 going on 15, and is so totally a boy. Really trying to be macho, and being exposed to all sorts of stupidity.
It's not a battle I am going to win. It's me, against the world really, and the world is very specific about gender roles.
The whole issue of wanting to look pretty, and of course the world needing you to be pretty, that's depressing though lol
Having my daughter come home questioning her worth as a person because someone called her fat....which is just dumb ass children not being able to tell the difference between fat and extremely tall, she is very very tall for a 9yr old.
Seeing my son get paranoid about his skin colour because everyone calls him a paki.
I get there is some underlying natural human desire to find a mate, just these narrow conditions that you have to meet, that's the unnatural part, the social part.
Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
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