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     Reply #720 - May 26, 2014, 06:05 PM

    yep in the quran reprimanding a wife is left open to interpretation, as is everything in that book..

    Is it really, though? Are we really gonna validate the absurd idea that tapping lightly is a good way to make a person comply? Under what circumstances would that ever work on any living creature, let alone an adult human with their own will? Are we really gonna reduce ourselves and say that's a good interpretation?

    Too fucking busy, and vice versa.
  • Help Me!
     Reply #721 - May 26, 2014, 06:10 PM

    I'm pretty sure that Suki was trying to mock the apologist attempt of redefining any critique as a misinterpretation.

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  • Help Me!
     Reply #722 - May 26, 2014, 06:12 PM

    Haven't seen it, but what I have done is discussed it with Muslim women. From my experience, they try their best to reword the verse in order to eliminate any root which could suggest that "hitting her" is a plausibility.


    Have you discussed their actual experiences by any chance?
  • Help Me!
     Reply #723 - May 26, 2014, 06:15 PM

    Nope, I don't know if they are experiencing Stockholm syndrome or not.

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  • Help Me!
     Reply #724 - May 26, 2014, 07:23 PM

    I'm pretty sure that Suki was trying to mock the apologist attempt of redefining any critique as a misinterpretation.


    Hey yep, i was being sarcastic, meaning (other than hadith) they, the authors of the quran left "reprimanding, beating" open to interpretation, therefore the muslim husband can, if he feels like choose what ever means he wants to correct his wife which in most cases is a thorough beating, seen it, heard it, been there, islamic marriages are f..ed up coz of that dumb line in the quran..   
     
  • Help Me!
     Reply #725 - May 26, 2014, 08:48 PM

    Ah man wtf, I just spent ages typing a post for you SM and it disappeared... let me try again.

    "ask whether there was any killings ordered by Mo that were ordered only because someone made fun of him etc. and not for legit reasons such as trying to kill him or his people."


    "Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah: The Prophet said, "Who is ready to kill Ka'b bin Al-Ashraf who has really hurt Allah and His Apostle?" Muhammad bin Maslama said, "O Allah's Apostle! Do you like me to kill him?" He replied in the affirmative. So, Muhammad bin Maslama went to him (i.e. Ka'b) and said, "This person (i.e. the Prophet) has put us to task and asked us for charity." Ka'b replied, "By Allah, you will get tired of him." Muhammad said to him, "We have followed him, so we dislike to leave him till we see the end of his affair." Muhammad bin Maslama went on talking to him in this way till he got the chance to kill him."

    Muhammad ordered this killing on the basis of defamation, the victim apparently used to write explicit poetry against Muhammad & Muslim women.
    Yasir Qadhi (an Islamic Scholar) has talked about this at length, you can find his works on YouTube.


    http://thefactsaboutislam.blogspot.fi/2011/07/truth-about-kab-bin-al-ashraf-just.html
    Short read.

    I'm speaking to your point. You are implying that we should dial back our criticism if the Quran only says tap lightly instead of beat.


    Oh no I'm not. I just find it unfair towards muslims if we imply that Quran teaches to severely beat women if it doesn't.
    That's it, not saying small beating is fine. Women are not children who are to be taught by their husbands (though everybody should listen and learn, regardless of gender, authority or power) plus children shouldn't be beaten either.

    There is no scholarly consensus that it has to be with miswack or grass or something similar, infact there are a variety of Hadiths that show the companions of Mohammed beating their wives violently, there is no sunnah or Hadith about the beating being a tap with a little instrument or something similar either.

    I have not found anything about Ibn kathir saying it should be with green grass.


    What Hadiths? I know the one where Mo's many women have behaved in a manner he didn't like and I think Aisha's father struck her to the chest. Not sure if it was Sahih and not sure if I remember it correctly.
    Doesn't Mo say in Hadith that man shouldn't beat his wife like a camel and many Hadiths and Quran verses also say that man shouldn't beat her or that he shouldn't be harsh towards women.

    Ibn Kathir didn't say it has to be done with green grass but in his tafsir about Ayyub/Job he explains that Job "hit" his wife with hundred green grasses tied together.

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  • Help Me!
     Reply #726 - May 26, 2014, 08:52 PM

    @SM

    Could you give me a reference closer to Muhammad's time which corroborates the claim that the assassination was due to enticing enemies against Muhammad?
    E.g. if someone such as Ibn Ishaq reported so then I would be inclined to accept it.

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  • Help Me!
     Reply #727 - May 26, 2014, 08:53 PM

    Oh no I'm not. I just find it unfair towards muslims if we imply that Quran teaches to severely beat women if it doesn't.

    I don't really care what Muslims feel about my opinion on Quran verses. The Quran is public domain. Muslims do not own exclusive rights to assess its merit.

    Too fucking busy, and vice versa.
  • Help Me!
     Reply #728 - May 26, 2014, 08:55 PM

    Typically the critics miss the healing miracle of the Muslim who was wounded during the assassination of Ka’b bin Al Ashraf:

    The group of men came back after fulfilling their mission. One of them Al-Harith bin Aws was wounded by mistake with the swords of his men, and was bleeding badly. When they reached Baqi’ Al-Gharqad, they shouted “Allah is Most Great”. The Prophet (p) heard them and realized that they had killed the enemy of Allah. As they saw him, he said: “Cheerful faces are yours.” In reply, they said: “And yours, O Messenger of Allah.” They handed the head of the tyrant over to him. He entertained Allah’s praise for their success. He then applied his saliva to Al-Harith’s wound and it healed on the spot. [9


    Claims such as ^ seem dubious at best, one reference isn't enough to affirm "miracle healing".

    It reminds me of the "miracles" during/after the Battle of Karbala.

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  • Help Me!
     Reply #729 - May 26, 2014, 08:57 PM

    I'm going to read what Ibn Ishaq has stated in his sira, it is more reliable than Muslim/Christian sites.
    Also, the writer of the biography who is referenced in your link was born in 1942. Although this doesn't automatically discredit his work, it means that it isn't a primary source & has most likely relied on the works of others who have relied on others.

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  • Help Me!
     Reply #730 - May 26, 2014, 10:01 PM


    What Hadiths? I know the one where Mo's many women have behaved in a manner he didn't like and I think Aisha's father struck her to the chest. Not sure if it was Sahih and not sure if I remember it correctly.
    Doesn't Mo say in Hadith that man shouldn't beat his wife like a camel and many Hadiths and Quran verses also say that man shouldn't beat her or that he shouldn't be harsh towards women.

    Ibn Kathir didn't say it has to be done with green grass but in his tafsir about Ayyub/Job he explains that Job "hit" his wife with hundred green grasses tied together.


    There are plenty, just Google it. here is one.

    "Narrated Ikrima: 'Rifaa divorced his wife whereupon Abdur-Rahman married her. Aisha said that the lady came wearing a green veil and complained to her (Aisha) and showed her a green spot on her skin caused by beating. It was the habit of ladies to support each other, so when Allah's messenger came, Aisha said, "I have not seen any woman suffering as much as the believing women. Look! Her skin is greener than her clothes! When Abdur-Rahman heard that his wife had gone to the prophet, he came with his two sons from another wife. She said, "By Allah! I have done no wrong to him, but he is impotent and is as useless to me as this," holding and showing the fringe of her garment. Abdur-Rahman said, "By Allah, O Allah's messenger! She has told a lie. I am very strong and can satisfy her, but she is disobedient and wants to go back to Rifaa." Allah's messenger said to her, "If that is your intention, then know that it is unlawful for you to remarry Rifaa unless Abdur-Rahman has had sexual intercourse with you." The prophet saw two boys with Abdur-Rahman and asked (him), "Are these your sons?" On that Abdur-Rahman said, "Yes." The prophet said, "You claim what you claim (that he is impotent)? But by Allah, these boys resemble him as a crow resembles a crow.""

    Bukhari[8], vol. 7, # 715
  • Help Me!
     Reply #731 - May 27, 2014, 12:19 AM

    http://thefactsaboutislam.blogspot.fi/2011/07/truth-about-kab-bin-al-ashraf-just.html
    Short read.

    Oh no I'm not. I just find it unfair towards muslims if we imply that Quran teaches to severely beat women if it doesn't.
    That's it, not saying small beating is fine. Women are not children who are to be taught by their husbands (though everybody should listen and learn, regardless of gender, authority or power) plus children shouldn't be beaten either.



    Why are you saying this is unfair towards Muslims, what the Quran says? They got to pick what Quran says? It is not their fault. If anything, the fact that Muslims have continually insisted there is spin in this verse and keep translating it to mean ¨ineffective beating¨ is a compliment to their humanity and mercy in light of a demeaning and discriminatory text.
    That verse very clearly states that women should be obedient to men, and if not, taught, punished by withholding sex, and then beaten.
    If you still cannot see that, just switch the gender around and see if it sounds any better, for a man to be treated the same way. Does it sound right for your wife to punish you for not obeying her wishes by lecturing you, then withholding sex, and then beating you, until you do what she says?. No matter what, it is implying you have to bend someone to your will, and that person is not your equal, if you are to treat them that way. Apologists like to claim this verse only applies to religious practice. Does that make it any better, to force religious practice?
    I used to see this verse as a mercy, the way it is translated, to prevent severe beatings. Now I know exactly how much pain and terror you can undergo without any broken bones, bruising, or blood, and the surah makes me sick to my stomach.
    Women are perpetual children in Islam, to be policed and supervised. The laws and stipulations for women are exactly as if they/we were incapable of self sufficiency or common sense.


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  • Help Me!
     Reply #732 - May 28, 2014, 04:06 PM

    http://www.misconceptions-about-islam.com/wife-beating-quran.htm

    Quote
    The first and perhaps most important point to mention is that this view is based only upon the use of one word in chapter 4, verse 34 of The Quran shown below:

    The men are supporters/maintainers of the women with what God preferred/bestowed on some of them over others and with what they spent of their money, so the righteous women are dutiful/obedient; guardians/protectors to the unseen with what God guarded/protected. And as for those women you fear their uprising/disloyalty, then you shall advise them, and (then) abandon them in the bed, and (then) idriboo them. If they obeyed you, then seek not against them a way; Truly, God is High, Great. [4:34]
    And if you (authority) feared a rift between them two, then appoint a judge from his family and a judge from hers. If they both want to reconcile, then God will bring agreement between them. God is Knowledgeable, Expert. [4:35]
    The Arabic word idriboo is commonly translated as hit/beat/strike, however the flaws with this understanding are as follows:

    The derivative idriboo is formed from one of the most multiple meaning and diversely used words (DaRaBa) in the Arabic language, and is used in several ways in The Quran itself.
    There is not one clear occurrence of this word meaning "beat" anywhere else in The Quran, and in almost all cases, this meaning is problematic or would not make sense.
    No Classical Arabic (the language The Quran is written in) dictionary gives the meaning of "beat" in a comparable example and none reference 4:34 at all.
    When The Quran uses this word to mean a literal/physical strike/hit, the preposition "bi" (with/by) is always used, but there is no such use in 4:34.
    This understanding causes internal contradictions within The Quran, and this is also probably why no commentator, past or present, uses The Quran itself to justify this view.
    There is no consensus amongst traditional commentators on the origin and interpretation of this verse, except on perhaps the basic points.
    If "beat/strike" is chosen, it would cause inconsistencies amongst Traditional Hadith (narrations) and Classical Arabic dictionaries, which show a variance in view.
    It contradicts the alleged reaction of prophet Muhammad to wife beating, in which he is reportedly to have found it unjust and said woman have the right to retaliate. The traditional story goes that he was over ruled by 4:34, apparently.

    The evidence from The Quran suggests the correct meaning of the word in this case would be "cite" or "indicate" them to the authority, hence authority involvement in 4:35. This also fits in with its usage elsewhere with direct objects.

    It is strongly recommended to weigh and consider the following study which presents a very detailed and comprehensive analysis of the claim of wife beating and domestic violence in Islam (www.Quran434.com). It also notes that the vast majority take it to mean hit/strike/beat with varying degrees of application.


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    I am curious, that's why I ask many questions.
    I am overly curious, that's why I ask stupid questions.
    I lack patience, that's why I ask frequently.
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  • Help Me!
     Reply #733 - May 28, 2014, 06:40 PM

    @Siunaa Maailmaa

    The word used means to beat/strike/hit, not cite, assign or present. The misconception from musilms here is that sometimes the word is used in constructs like in 66:10 http://corpus.quran.com/wordbyword.jsp?chapter=66&verse=10#%2866:10:1%29

    Literally its "strikes allah an example for those who disbelieved". The context however informs that 'struck' cannot be physical as you can't physically hit someone with an example so we have an understanding akin to "presents allah" instead of "(literally) strikes allah". Note that the word in question doesn't intrinsically have this definition but instead was used in conjunction with other words and context for a phase that gives the meaning "Here's an example for the disbelievers".

    This is akin to a teacher saying "I beat my students over the head with this lesson". The sentence however means "I went over this lesson rigorously with my students". How can this be? How can we get that understanding when the basic definition of 'beat' is as follows? https://www.google.com/search?q=beat+definition&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&channel=sb

    Because the word beat is not exclusive but added together with other words  to create an idiom in the form of "beat over the head". This idiom is then applied in a sentence construct to give a meaning altogether different from each individual words definition! That's how language works. The basic definition of a word often times informs the meanings of phrases even though the phrase might lack some of the literal nature of its words. The opposite however is untrue. You can't take the meaning of a phrase and then apply that meaning to its individual words. Just take the previous example I struck you with (hehe!)

    The takeaway was that:
    "I beat my students over the head with this lesson" = "I went over this lesson rigorously with my students"

    Relating this to the Islamic apologetics being done, the argument would be that considering the phrase means 'to go over intensely', the individual word 'beat' carries that same meaning. This is obviously incorrect. The phrase "I beat him" doesn't mean "I went over something intensely with him". It's just the same as in 4:34 "And strike them" doesn't mean "And present them with an example"

    Does that make sense?

    Now to some of the specific arguments:

    Quote
    "There is not one clear occurrence of this word meaning "beat" anywhere else in The Quran, and in almost all cases, this meaning is problematic or would not make sense."


    8:12 [Remember] when your Lord inspired to the angels, "I am with you, so strengthen those who have believed. I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieved, so strike [them] upon the necks and strike from them every fingertip."

    Quote
    No Classical Arabic (the language The Quran is written in) dictionary gives the meaning of "beat" in a comparable example and none reference 4:34 at all.


    http://ejtaal.net/aa/img/br/5/br-0573.png Look at #2 hehe! Every dictionary will relate that the literal meaning of the word is beat btw

    Quote
    When The Quran uses this word to mean a literal/physical strike/hit, the preposition "bi" (with/by) is always used, but there is no such use in 4:34.


    Whoa... wasn't their argument that the quran doesn't use the word literally? "There is not one clear occurrence of this word meaning "beat" anywhere else in The Quran" ? So I guess they're accepting that's what the word means? As for "bi" this doesn't make sense as an argument. "bi" prefix essentially means "with". Such as "strike with a staff". You don't need it if you aren't saying what to hit with... Regardless, 8:12 is such an example without it.

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    This understanding causes internal contradictions within The Quran, and this is also probably why no commentator, past or present, uses The Quran itself to justify this view.


    http://www.altafsir.com/Tafasir.asp?tMadhNo=0&tTafsirNo=74&tSoraNo=4&tAyahNo=34&tDisplay=yes&UserProfile=0&LanguageId=2

    Quote
    There is no consensus amongst traditional commentators on the origin and interpretation of this verse, except on perhaps the basic points.


    The meaning is easy to grasp. All you need is a little bit of intellectual honesty. Oh right... now I know why this has been so confusing for these people!

    Quote
    If "beat/strike" is chosen, it would cause inconsistencies amongst Traditional Hadith (narrations) and Classical Arabic dictionaries, which show a variance in view.


    I don't know what their argument is as for as hadith goes, but the dictionary bit is bullshit as I've demonstrated.

    Quote
    It contradicts the alleged reaction of prophet Muhammad to wife beating, in which he is reportedly to have found it unjust and said woman have the right to retaliate. The traditional story goes that he was over ruled by 4:34, apparently.


    So... quran overrules sunnah? what's the problem here?

    Quote
    The evidence from The Quran suggests the correct meaning of the word in this case would be "cite" or "indicate" them to the authority, hence authority involvement in 4:35. This also fits in with its usage elsewhere with direct objects.


    Not a single piece of evidence was given. The overwhelming definition of the word along with the overwhelming consensus among commentators was completely disregarded for a figurative meaning pulled haphazardly from a construct not used in 4:34. These people have no idea what they're talking about.

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    It is strongly recommended to weigh and consider the following study which presents a very detailed and comprehensive analysis of the claim of wife beating and domestic violence in Islam (www.Quran434.com). It also notes that the vast majority take it to mean hit/strike/beat with varying degrees of application.


    This is hilarious. They start pretty much every entry with "traditionally commentators say it means beat/strike/hit but they're wrong and let us post nonsense on how it's wrong". Particularity when they attempted to say 8:50 and verses like it about angels taking people and beating them up as they go to hell don't really mean to beat them up... that was unfollowable in it's idiocy.

    Anyway, this was long but I hope it clears some thing up for you
  • Help Me!
     Reply #734 - May 28, 2014, 07:33 PM

    Quote
    It also notes that the vast majority take it to mean hit/strike/beat with varying degrees of application.


    So the majority agree regarding it's meaning but some anonymous website begs to differ.

    More follows

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    I am an independent student of The Quran, born and raised in the United Kingdom. I have no formal education in Arabic/Islamic/Religious studies. I do not consider myself a scholar, nor do I wish to be one. I try to use what I have been given to determine the message to the best of my abilities, and I am simply one of its intended recipients: an imperfect human being.


    You are free to take a layman's word that his paper is accurate. I think I will stick with traditional sources made by those fluent in both languages with an actual education in Islamic Studies. Even my own Islamic professors and guest scholars say it means beat (lightly/toothbrush).
  • Help Me!
     Reply #735 - May 28, 2014, 09:56 PM

    I actually asked my teachers about this and the fact that some people had argued that the verse should be reinterpreted. He told me very clearly that there's an ijmaa about the meaning, and according to traditional sunni fiqh, ijmaa is binding for all times. There's really no way around it if you aren't taking a quranist approach to it. As soon as you accept hadeeth and the seerah, you're fucked. You really can't talk your way out of the meaning... There are so many supporting narrations that makes it pretty clear that a) Mo condoned and approved of the beating, albeit a "light beating" urging people to be "good" to their women, and b) there are numerous narrations where Mo knows, sees, hears and talks about some of his companions being very harsh and violent against their wives, but he never reprimanded them or making it unlawful.

    For example, one of the companions was known to be "harsh" towards his wives, beating them severely, and he advised a woman not to marry him because of it. He advised the woman not to marry him, he did not advise the man that what he was doing was wrong. I haven't read this other narration from its source, but I heard a lecturer talking about a companion who had two wives. One of them was disobedient, so he took both of them and tied their hairs together and beat the crap out of them, saying that it was punishment for one of them and reminder for the other. Fun fact: this companion was one of them promised paradise Smiley Says a lot, doesn't it?

    Anyway, the issue or problem (as has already been mentioned) is not about the manner of beating. It's about making women subordinate and "perpetual minors" (not that I think minors should be spanked or beaten anyway), giving their husbands (their owners, basically, and guardians) the right to "parent" them into what they think they should be or do. Even if some people try to argue that the beating is only "symbolic", it's bad enough. Given the fact that some companions interpreted the verse to mean they had a green card for out right abuse and wife beating, and Mo never ever saying to them NO it's wrong (on the contrary), I would say the "symbolic" argument is weak anyway.

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  • Help Me!
     Reply #736 - May 28, 2014, 10:09 PM

    An "Ikhtilaf" over an ijma  Cheesy

    I have respect for the Muslims who say "I know it says X but I disagree" I.e. the reformist attitude.
    I don't have respect for " It says X but this word has 16 meanings and one could have a translation which could mean something else".
    I have noticed that the latter form of apologetics is quite common within some ahmadi circles, they perform intellectual gymnastics when discussing Islam.




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  • Help Me!
     Reply #737 - May 29, 2014, 12:18 AM

    Even if you speak no Arabic at all, you can see the natural progression in the verse goes from talking to withholding sex to ? What would you say comes next? Talking, again? Or beating? Trying to change the meaning of the word makes the verse nonsensical advice. There would be no worsening degree of punishment. It would be a joke. ¨If your wife disobeys you, talk to her, then absent yourself from her bed, then talk some more.¨ No.
    Self evident.

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  • Help Me!
     Reply #738 - May 29, 2014, 12:33 AM

    I actually asked my teachers about this and the fact that some people had argued that the verse should be reinterpreted. He told me very clearly that there's an ijmaa about the meaning, and according to traditional sunni fiqh, ijmaa is binding for all times. There's really no way around it if you aren't taking a quranist approach to it. As soon as you accept hadeeth and the seerah, you're fucked. You really can't talk your way out of the meaning... There are so many supporting narrations that makes it pretty clear that a) Mo condoned and approved of the beating, albeit a "light beating" urging people to be "good" to their women, and b) there are numerous narrations where Mo knows, sees, hears and talks about some of his companions being very harsh and violent against their wives, but he never reprimanded them or making it unlawful.

    For example, one of the companions was known to be "harsh" towards his wives, beating them severely, and he advised a woman not to marry him because of it. He advised the woman not to marry him, he did not advise the man that what he was doing was wrong. I haven't read this other narration from its source, but I heard a lecturer talking about a companion who had two wives. One of them was disobedient, so he took both of them and tied their hairs together and beat the crap out of them, saying that it was punishment for one of them and reminder for the other. Fun fact: this companion was one of them promised paradise Smiley Says a lot, doesn't it?

    Anyway, the issue or problem (as has already been mentioned) is not about the manner of beating. It's about making women subordinate and "perpetual minors" (not that I think minors should be spanked or beaten anyway), giving their husbands (their owners, basically, and guardians) the right to "parent" them into what they think they should be or do. Even if some people try to argue that the beating is only "symbolic", it's bad enough. Given the fact that some companions interpreted the verse to mean they had a green card for out right abuse and wife beating, and Mo never ever saying to them NO it's wrong (on the contrary), I would say the "symbolic" argument is weak anyway.


    I heard an argument recently from a Muslim that the light beating with a miswack or something similar is the strongest as it was instructed by Ibn abbas in his tafsir and he was a companion of the prophet.
  • Help Me!
     Reply #739 - May 29, 2014, 01:58 AM

    the issue or problem (as has already been mentioned) is not about the manner of beating.It's about making women subordinate and "perpetual minors" (not that I think minors should be spanked or beaten anyway), giving their husbands (their owners, basically, and guardians) the right to "parent" them into what they think they should be or do. Even if some people try to argue that the beating is only "symbolic", it's bad enough.



    "so now, if you leave (Allahu A?lam is you already have) what will u do??? go out and show ur body to all the men??? sleep with countless men?? maashaAllah if you think think this is freedom or womens right then may Allah guide you to that which is correct."
  • Help Me!
     Reply #740 - May 29, 2014, 06:11 AM

    I heard an argument recently from a Muslim that the light beating with a miswack or something similar is the strongest as it was instructed by Ibn abbas in his tafsir and he was a companion of the prophet.


    Yeah, but what about all the other companions who beat their wives leaving bruises? They weren't "low ranked" companions, they were people promised paradise and whatnot. The ruling concerning not leaving marks pertains to PERMANENT marks, or severe damaging of the skin. Besides, ibn Abbas also said that the correct interpretation of the Hijab verse was that women should cover up everything except one or two eyes to see with when walking... Do I need to say more about why the ibn Abbas argument is bogus and hypocritical? Roll Eyes

    @Qtian. Thanks Smiley

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  • Help Me!
     Reply #741 - May 29, 2014, 04:32 PM

    Is English virtually a native language for you cornflower? I have heard in Sweden that English is so prevalent that kids grow up learning it like Swedish. 
  • Help Me!
     Reply #742 - May 29, 2014, 08:28 PM

    Haha no I wouldn't go so far. Swedes very often over-estimate their own language skills. I've studied English at uni level.

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