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  • Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     OP - February 10, 2009, 05:06 PM

    A long time ago when I left Islam, I felt like I had broken free of a kind of intellectual suffocation. I could now see things in Islam that I never saw before; my skeptical eye had finally opened.

    And how could I let others suffer from the same ignorance? I talked to people online, people who I felt were intelligent enough and had even a little coherence in their thought process. How could they not see what I saw? I argued with them and of course there's no arguing against logic: the Quran condoles slavery, we know slavery is wrong, therefore, the Quran isn't perfect. How could they argue against that?

    Or that the Quran prescribes revenge as justice, but that Gandhi prescribed self sacrifice and perseverance, thereby condemning revenge. Therefore Gandhi was more idealistic than the Quran/God... (regardless of what's practically applicable). This contradicts the image of god in Islam! How could they argue against that?

    Allah kills the pharoah after giving him multiple chances to rebel, but orders a 10 year old child killed before he even committed any crime? That's unfair! How could they argue against that?

    In two years of debating with thousands (literally) of Muslims who offered all kinds of counter-arguments ranging from cultural relativism to totally absurd magical explanations of sufis, logic and reasoning was still on my side.

    Guess how many people I converted? None. Even though my arguments were almost axiomatically correct!

    I did convert a few people who I befriended... who I didn't argue against, but who I made friends with. I explained my point of view to them instead of debating... and they actually left Islam.

    The ones who I debated against or the audience... only began to hate me for winning debates instead of changing. The human ego just could not accept something so catastrophic to their beliefs - something that was linked to the near-omnipotence of their parents (what they had taught them) and their friends, families, relatives... even what they saw on TV (Muslim tv channels), to what they read.... to what their favorite cricketers and singers preaches (junaid jamshed and inzimam).

    Islam was all around them and no matter how logical or sound an argument they were presented with, they rejected. It put them in severe cognitive dissonance, but they took it out on me... even though I went out of my way to condemn islamophobic attitudes of assholes like Ali Sina etc... I even defended Islam when it was being unfairly blamed.

    None of it mattered. It worked only when I was able to insert myself in to their social environment - as their friend. And yes they became great friends of mine too...

    Rational arguments were useful only so far as I was a trusted source within their social environment. They didn't work when I was outside it...

    (in this context, it seems ingenious that the quran has forbidden friendship with most non-muslims, right?)

    The bottom line is that we apostates seem to put too much emphasis on rational arguments, because they have "set us free"... we see them as the panacea to the problem of religion... and there are those amongst us who are hell bent on "destroying religion with the light of reason". Those people in my opinion... are morons who have been taken in by their own psychology.

    They may be able to break one percent of people they meet... people who are emotionally and psychologically fragile... but that's more due to the personality weakness of those people.

    What we need to understand is that rational arguments have their place... in our zeal to "help" people, we end up being duped by our self-importance in to thinking THIS (rationality) will somehow get through to them...

    in my opinion, what we need to do is relax. take a step back... and let them be the way they want to... it matters very little if they slam their forehead on the ground 5 times a day or don't eat with their left hand etc... it can get annoying when they usually start spouting moral authority derived from their religion, but ignore it... they're just not smart enough. And it's nothing to feel smug about by the way... it's actually sad.

    i now find it easier to get on with my life - make my career - fall in love - get married - or pursue further education - go bungee jumping... whatever... life IS... more about religion.

    don't let the theists force you to play their game by making it about religion.

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #1 - February 10, 2009, 05:52 PM

    Do you have a source where I can read more about "Allah kills the pharoah after giving him multiple chances to rebel, but orders a 10 year old child killed before he even committed any crime? That's unfair! How could they argue against that?"

    I think you raise a valid point.  However you're right about not wasting time those that do not recognise logic as a true method behind everyday evaluation.  But there are other believers who recognise logic and feel Islam is the most logical belief system there is. These are the people who get my goat, and they are the ones who are most likely to put up a fight, but also the easiest to convert. 

    I also agree with you, many people from this forum also feel that by forcing the facts down people's throats and ridiculing their religion  Cat fight , they can become more convincing.  It isn't, as it just puts their backs up.

    Speaking of conversions, is Salhuddin right?  I have made many doubt, but also not managed a full blown conversion. 

    Has anyone converted anyone into atheism from being a Muslim (not a doubting Muslim).  If so what methods did you use?

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #2 - February 10, 2009, 06:10 PM

    Interesting post.

    Islam sure does take an intellectual toll, but trying to 'convert' (as you put it, coming off rather zealous there) the religious is mostly a waste of time, as you've discovered. It's not because they're (all) just stupid, but they're inculcated with faith. Remember, people aren't rational at the best times. Religion makes bonds with the heart, for each one is an earthly burden, which is why they're timid. Most people are content to live narrowly, anyway. As long as it works for them (or seems to) they're not inclined to question any of it. Doubting for them is to give up long-held bearings, and you have to learn some new ones.

    But they're worth challenging. I leave it up to them to spout off about. You can make them ask questions, give them something to chew on etc., and they might take what you have to say on board.

    "...every imperfection in man is a bond with heaven..." - Karl Marx
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #3 - February 10, 2009, 07:37 PM

    I can see your point. That's why I always highlight the most repugnant aspects of Islam first when I'm debating with a Muslim, the things that make people intellectually and morally uncomfortable. Mohammad's pedophilia for example. You can argue that the Quran is full of scientific errors for example, but people tend to ignore such things later on in their lives.

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #4 - February 10, 2009, 09:09 PM

    I find the subject of paedophilia closes them up like a clam, and they dont take in anything after that..

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #5 - February 10, 2009, 09:20 PM

    Here are some of the observations and opinions I collected about de-programming our brains from islam, and you can substitute islam with any other idea or doctrine if you prefer.

    We only accept a belief or an idea that we perceive as useful. Once we perceive an idea as useful to us, we will defend it. We will build stories around it, and design all types of mental defenses to protect such an idea.

    As an example we have a muslim guy. Let's call him Joe.

    When you see Joe defending muhamad's action in banu qurayza, it is not because Joe cares about qurayza. The reason he chose to defend muhamad's action, you might never know. He will never tell you.

    On our example, Joe had been taught to hit the women in the house to control them. How can yo possibly expect this man to come out and say wife beating is wrong? When to him wife beating is essential to keep his home in order.

    That same man, might believe that his society is actually better and safer with islam. Joe perceives islam as a way to move forward. Not a prefect way perhaps, but a guaranteed way.

    Joe had been denied female companionship, growing up, he does not know how to handle women, he never realized it was islam that denied him the life lessons, but now and today, beating the women in the house is the best way he knows how to proceed. And the funny thing is, Joe later proceeded his entire life without ever hitting a woman in his life. But he could not have known better today.

    Joe's attachment to islam is due to him believing it is good for his society and essential to keep his house in order.

    Arguing with Joe about fringe subjects like: qurayza, historical inaccuracies, better verses, miracles, science, evolution, etc. is 99% useless. Unless you hit a subject that Joe cares about, you are wasting your time and joe's time.

    You have to talk to Joe directly as to what holds him to islam. I will postulate that, with your friends, you were able to know them and read them, and were able to better gage and answers what really holds them back. Over the internet, we just do not have this luxury.

    Another issue is how intelligent is the doctrine. Islam has a 1400yrs head start on its followers. It had time to develop its weapons. I would say the islam faith is like a guy wit an IQ of 130 who specialized in his own propagation: replication and distribution.

    As such, for Joe to break free, Joe will need to go against an IQ of 130. Joe will have to be more intelligent then his faith, and most people can not achieve such a feat on their own, let alone achieve it in their lifetime. As to helping Joe, ifJoe has an intelligence of 90 or even 100, what good is reason for him?

    Take the above and change Joe's doctrines to Christianity, or flip him from communism to capitalism, or right to left and I will still maintain the same opinions.

    PS: Many people are quite adamant about displaying their true motives, some do not know them yet, some, very rare, will be quite happy to discuss them. You just have to ask the correct questions.

    "Ask the slave girl; she will tell you the truth.' So the Apostle called Burayra to ask her. Ali got up and gave her a violent beating first, saying, 'Tell the Apostle the truth.'"
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #6 - February 10, 2009, 09:29 PM

    I find the subject of paedophilia closes them up like a clam, and they dont take in anything after that..


    I think it depends on how you bring the topic on the table. You could smash the Hadith right in his face and declare Mohammad to be a disgusting child-abuser (btw. pedophilia and child-abuse are two different things.) Or you could take the more prudent approach and ask a Muslim with the right voice and the right face expression what he thinks about the fact that some Muslims don't object to child marriage because the prophet has set an example with the marriage to Aisha.

    In my opinion, rationality is indispensable, but so is time to allow for the arguments to sink in.

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #7 - February 10, 2009, 09:46 PM

    Baal, your logic flows beautifully from the beginning - middle - end.  However the only problem is that the premise you start with is false!

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    We only accept a belief or an idea that we perceive as useful. 


    When I was 13 years old and a believer,  I never thought Islam was useful. If anything it was anything but useful to me, as it stopped me doing what I wanted to, made me waste hours in subservience, and not practical as it talked about the past and did not relate to todays day & age. 

    I just believed it.  I had faith. It was true and the word of God.

    Let me put it another way.  I assume you used to be a Christian (or still are?), did you believe in it because of an  unexplainable force, call it conditioning or brainwash or whatever you want, or was it its usefullness that made you believe?


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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #8 - February 10, 2009, 09:59 PM

    I just believed it.  I had faith. It was true and the word of God.


    That is a fine example of Iman-Bil-Gaib

    I was not blessed with the ability to have blind faith. I cant beleive something just because someone says its true.
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #9 - February 10, 2009, 10:09 PM


    I do think that reason and rationality are the best weapons we have.

    Faith is a very strong virus, meme. To get rid of it would take many generations and societal enlightenment.

    It is happenning in the West though after 200 years of ups and downs. With time the folly of belief in thousand year old scriptures littered with errors and nonsense and archaic morals will crumble.

    But people must work with the tools of reason we have to make it happen.

    There are too many people in the closet needing support to abandon them thinking reason will not help.

    Knowing Islam is the only true religion we do not allow propagation of any other religion. How can we allow building of churches and temples when their religion is wrong? Thus we will not allow such wrong things in our countries. - Zakir Naik
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #10 - February 10, 2009, 11:20 PM

    Baal, your logic flows beautifully from the beginning - middle - end.  However the only problem is that the premise you start with is false!

    Quote
    We only accept a belief or an idea that we perceive as useful. 


    When I was 13 years old and a believer,  I never thought Islam was useful. If anything it was anything but useful to me, as it stopped me doing what I wanted to, made me waste hours in subservience, and not practical as it talked about the past and did not relate to todays day & age. 

    I just believed it.  I had faith. It was true and the word of God.

    Let me put it another way.  I assume you used to be a Christian (or still are?), did you believe in it because of an  unexplainable force, call it conditioning or brainwash or whatever you want, or was it its usefullness that made you believe?


    I perceived my belief as useful.
    When I was young, I thought doing certain things will protect me from hell and having a bad life, as well as make my life better as well as get me to heaven.

    I also saw it as useful as in it made the adults treat me better when I followed certain prescribed rituals.

    I also saw it as useful since I had so many good friends at church and I got to see them every week, and play sports and cards.

    I particularly perceived the religion to be useful during xmas and easter and in fact I still do.

    I perceived it as useful as it allowed me a reprieve from the cultural and islamic pressure that growing up in egypt imposed on me.

    As I grew up, my perception of heaven and hell, diminished, and by the time I was 18, most of the heejee beejees of christianity became useless to me. I no longer perceived any usefulness in them to me. Still,I perceived some usefulness in them as they seemed to keep the rest of my society coherant.

    Also the usefulness of the rituals quickly diminished as I turned 12 and i only kept praying before i sleep till this day. Although now it is more of a meditation or a personal affirmation or sometimes, rarely, a couple of swear words before I goto sleep. Whatever makes me feel better.


    I understand that the statement I made that: "People believe what they perceive to be useful" might sound strange and foreign to some. But I had this thought with me for years now and it always seem to coincide with reality.

    Another couple things to add:

    First, there is always a time lag between perception and belief. When someone changes a perception, you have to allow time for the belief to follow. Of course, most of the times, the belief will resist and win, and a new perception will be made.

    i.e. islam is good for keeping my house in order. When that fails, islam is now good for my society. When that fails islam is now good because the other systems are worse. etc..

    Second, most people, most of the time, with most of their ideas, will not be sure exactly, what is it they perceive, that is holding them to a faith. For them, the perception of usefulness, will happen from a sub-conscious level.

    i.e. When a male is deprived of female companionship growing up, rape often becomes appealing. He will have videos of rapes on his cellphones and even exchange them with friends in his society. Such a person, will be impossible for him, to come and say in public that he finds nothing wrong with a doctrine that permit rape. It will be even hard for him to even admit it to himself.

    i.e. A person who perceives islam as useful to his society, might be spending his time defending muhammad's actions and the koran. He will even be convinced of the miracles and the science. Yet will not readily know that, his main attachment to islam is its 'perceived usefulness'.

    i.e. A woman, let's call her Zena. Zena is an attention seeker. Her subconscious demands attention. Hijab gives her the ammunition she needs to get attention. She will defend the hijab with her hand and teeth. Yet, might not consciously realize she is an attention troll.

    "Ask the slave girl; she will tell you the truth.' So the Apostle called Burayra to ask her. Ali got up and gave her a violent beating first, saying, 'Tell the Apostle the truth.'"
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #11 - February 10, 2009, 11:32 PM

    When I was 13 years old and a believer,  I never thought Islam was useful. If anything it was anything but useful to me, as it stopped me doing what I wanted to, made me waste hours in subservience, and not practical as it talked about the past and did not relate to todays day & age. 

    Perhaps that lack of belief in utility allowed you to take your first steps to here?

    This is an interesting conversation by the way.
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #12 - February 11, 2009, 12:02 AM

    Ghazali, this is not about letting go of reason and logic. But about directing the effort where it counts.

    To those bringing the example of p3drofilia:
    Talking about p3drofilia in islam and relying on reason, will achieve very little, if the person you talk to, does not see anything wrong with it.

    You can bring all the proper and correct reasonable arguments to associate islam with p3dr0filia. He will come up with the silliest and most childish counter-arguments. Ultimately, if he does not perceive p3drofilia as harmful, then it does not matter if u associate it with islam or not. Yet he *will* put the time and effort to thwart your logic. A win-win situation for him.

    If in his society, he was deprived of growing up with female companionship, and to him women, of all age, are sex objects. Also the prophet he was made to admire all his life, committed p3drofilia and as such, he was allowed to fantasize about it without being made to feel guilty. And now you come and talk about it as if it is something bad?

    Such a person, you should not waste your time (reason) talking about muhammad with him. You should instead concentrate most of your time (reason) on discussing how is p3drofilia bad and hamful to children and to society.

    "Ask the slave girl; she will tell you the truth.' So the Apostle called Burayra to ask her. Ali got up and gave her a violent beating first, saying, 'Tell the Apostle the truth.'"
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #13 - February 11, 2009, 12:03 AM

    When I was 13 years old and a believer,  I never thought Islam was useful. If anything it was anything but useful to me, as it stopped me doing what I wanted to, made me waste hours in subservience, and not practical as it talked about the past and did not relate to todays day & age. 

    Perhaps that lack of belief in utility allowed you to take your first steps to here?

    This is an interesting conversation by the way.


    I know what you are saying and maybe true for a lot of people who found the religion is at odds with their goals & aspirations, and thus gives them grounds to research more to find the truth.

    However I always resented the lack of utility, but still felt it was just Gods word so I had to accept it.  The first steps for me, were when  the religion and its God sounded very familiar to a primitive man creation.  Once I had proved that to myself then the rest followed straightforwardly.

    However this is still very different from someone who can convince themselves to believe in a God for purely selfish reasons?

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #14 - February 11, 2009, 12:13 AM

    I also saw it as useful as in it made the adults treat me better when I followed certain prescribed rituals.
    I also saw it as useful since I had so many good friends at church and I got to see them every week, and play sports and cards.
    I particularly perceived the religion to be useful during xmas and easter and in fact I still do.
    I perceived it as useful as it allowed me a reprieve from the cultural and islamic pressure that growing up in egypt imposed on me.

    Also the usefulness of the rituals quickly diminished as I turned 12 and i only kept praying before i sleep till this day. Although now it is more of a meditation or a personal affirmation



    From this, it sounds to me like you were/are a cultural Christian.  Thats entirely different.

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #15 - February 11, 2009, 12:33 AM

    We are not purely intellectual creatures. Our thoughts processes come laden with emotional baggage, associations, personal investments in things. It proves hard to let this go when rationally discussing something (such as the veracity of Islam or any other religion).

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #16 - February 11, 2009, 12:36 AM

    I also saw it as useful as in it made the adults treat me better when I followed certain prescribed rituals.
    I also saw it as useful since I had so many good friends at church and I got to see them every week, and play sports and cards.
    I particularly perceived the religion to be useful during xmas and easter and in fact I still do.
    I perceived it as useful as it allowed me a reprieve from the cultural and islamic pressure that growing up in egypt imposed on me.

    Also the usefulness of the rituals quickly diminished as I turned 12 and i only kept praying before i sleep till this day. Although now it is more of a meditation or a personal affirmation



    From this, it sounds to me like you were/are a cultural Christian.  Thats entirely different.

    Not at all, I was a christian, confirming and believing everything that a christian believes in and accept.

    And if at the time, you even suggested to me that I was believing for selfish reasons, I would have laughed at you. If you had suggested to me that my belief hinged on my fear of hell and desire for heaven, that my belief hinged on me needing protection againt the big bad islamic culture surrounding me, I would have told you that you are a loonie. If I jumped in a time machine and told my younger self that my belief hinged on perceived usefulness, I would have kicked my own ass back to the future.

    However now, that I look back at my younger self, I can say that the best way for you to have de-programmed me, was to attack the things i perceived as useful. And since it is extremely hard to make a case for a kid /teen against christmas, or against weekly sports, or a chance to meet girls, or against a solid group vs islam, I would say it would have, even using the best tools possible, it would have been very hard for you to convince me as a teen that christianity was wrong for me.

    "Ask the slave girl; she will tell you the truth.' So the Apostle called Burayra to ask her. Ali got up and gave her a violent beating first, saying, 'Tell the Apostle the truth.'"
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #17 - February 11, 2009, 03:08 AM

    One thing I've learned from watching and participating in debates about religion is that human beings can rationalize anything. Especially in defense of their religion.

    Though it has no bridge,
    The cloud climbs up to heaven;
    It does not seek the aid
    Of Gautama's sutras.

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #18 - February 11, 2009, 08:24 AM

    Do you have a source where I can read more about "Allah kills the pharoah after giving him multiple chances to rebel, but orders a 10 year old child killed before he even committed any crime? That's unfair! How could they argue against that?"

    =============

    Regarding Pharoah, I think SalahuddinR meant verses like: (plz correct me if i'm wrong)

    7/141:

    [141] And remember We rescued you from Fir'aun's people, who afflicted you with the worst of penalties, who slew your male children and saved alive your females: in that was a momentous trial from your Lord.

    10/75:

    [75] Then after them sent We Musa and Harun to Fir'aun and his chiefs with Our Signs. But they were arrogant: they were a people in sin.


    2/49:

    [49] And remember, We delivered you from the people of Fir'aun: they set you hard tasks and punishments, slaughtered your sons and let your womenfolk live; therein was a tremendous trial from your Lord.


    20/24:

    [24] "Go thou to Fir'aun, for he has indeed transgressed all bounds."


    & more.



    as for the kid,

    18/74-75:

    [74] Then they proceeded: until, when they met a young man, he slew him. Musa said: "Hast thou slain an innocent person who had slain none? Truly a foul (unheard-of) thing hast thou done!"

    [75] He answered: "Did I not tell thee that thou canst have no patience with me?"




    Read Tafsirs for the 2 verses above.

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #19 - February 11, 2009, 08:57 AM

    Ghazali, this is not about letting go of reason and logic. But about directing the effort where it counts.

    To those bringing the example of p3drofilia:
    Talking about p3drofilia in islam and relying on reason, will achieve very little, if the person you talk to, does not see anything wrong with it.



    To tell the truth, I've never liked bringing up the topic of paedophilia. For me reason and rationality revolves around science and humanism.

    Most Muslims we meet on the web are here specifically to defend Islam. Getting thru to them will always be a problem. They already have apologetic answers for all the questionable issues we can raise.

    But persistance is the key. Some may crack even years in the future after some event, a 9/11 a Rushdie affair or whatever and they will remember what someone said, then research it again and come to a different conclusion.

    If you're trying to crack a stone, the first few blows may appear to do nothing, but you are weakening the structure. A few blows later and the inside will shatter to see the light of day.

    So don't feel that because we cannot get thru after a few debates, the seed is not sown for future blossoming of reason and rationality.

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #20 - February 11, 2009, 09:10 AM

    I think rationale discourse can be successful depending on the topics you choose to discuss. If during a one-on-one you try to attack the behaviour of Muhammed or the social structures he introduced then you'll just be getting into long drawn out conversations that have been played out many times before. I personally think that would be a waste of time when initially your aim should be just to create a crack in the dam and not blow the whole thing up on your first attempt.

    As Muslims tend to believe Islam is the most 'logical' and 'scientific' religion around I would be more inclined to work through the following scenario

    Ex to Believer: "Do you believe everything in Islam?"

    Believer: "Yes of course."

    Ex: "Even the story about Muhammed ascending to heaven on the back of a 'horse-like' creature?"

    Believer: "Well..."

    It's one thing believing that a man be it Jesus or Muhammed has been personally blessed by God but when you start introducing 'Harry Potter' like animals into your religion then you're on shaky ground.

    My point is you should make them doubt the glaringly ridiuclous first before working on the other stuff.

    Just my opinion.
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #21 - February 11, 2009, 10:31 AM

    Good point - maybe we should start all critiques of Islam with a list of these absurdities, once they feel that certain things sound like rubbish, it should make the rest of the arguments easier.

    Just like Ghazali's structural weakness scenario, which gives me an idea..


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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #22 - February 11, 2009, 05:13 PM

    My point was that we shouldn't argue with muslims at all. it never helps... not once. period. no matter how you start it or how you approach it... it won't work.

    Baal: I actually made friends with muslims online, got them on msn chat and persuaded them with a one on one discussion where i reflected on what made it difficult for *me* to believe in islam... instead of what was wrong with islam itself.

    You mentioned replication - are you in to memetics? I once wrote a paper when I was with the towelians, using memetics to explain how to de-program muslims... and at that time my conclusion was still the same (it was years ago): that any sort of confrontation (no matter how polite or subtle) does not work... you have get under their guard.

    using this method, i was able to convert about 4-5 muslims, none of whom have reverted back and probably never will, even if they undergo deep emotional trauma - and i know this because now they interpret the world through the meme of science and atheism - they are introspective and self-analytical enough to not let their psychology affect them anymore, thereby effectively cutting them off from the religious memes...

    Argumentation with Muslims is a waste of time, albeit cathartic for the "new apostates" who are exploding with new-found intellectual and emotional freedom. perhaps some of them are even rebelling against earlier persecution...

    but it's counter-productive to their stated goal of converting them away from islam.

    Personally I don't think conversion should be a goal at all. We should instead try to create a social environment where ex-Muslims are a visible group, so that skeptical Muslims are not socially pressured in to adhering to Islam. They will be able to approach us... and if not that, then at least they won't feel it's taboo to criticize the religion.

    Our mere visibility (and acceptance by the Muslim ummah - the difficult part) can bring this about. Imagine a world where millions of Muslims question their faith because it's socially acceptable to do so... THAT may just set off an intellectual revolution amongst the masses.

    It sounds unbelievable and idealistic... but many years ago I said that Muslims from around the world will start apostatizing and they will become a lot more visible to everyone. it will be a trend. and i was right: when i was with the Towelians, i saw ex-Muslims from Maldives, saudi arabia, pakistan, india, some countries in africa, canada, usa, uk, france, australia... and many more.

    ex-muslim blogs are numerous now. we're everywhere... and i estimate our numbers are in the millions if you count the "apathetic apostate" (the kind who don't declare it nor do they even think about atheism... but just live their lives... and don't really care about faith or allah either).

    Acceptance by the Muslim world is doable: here's how: i've met many educated muslims who are uncomfortable with killing apostates... or even stating that's "right"... and there is a cadre of "progressive" muslims out there like ali eteraz, irshad manji, reza aslan, etc... and though their ideological perspective on islam may not be infectious to the muslim ummah, what matters is their CELEBRITY.

    That is, these people can be in islamic magazines, islamic tv, newspapers, conferences etc... they get the spotlight. they're the liberal icons... and just by being celebrities, they are in the muslim psyche; if these folks befriend us, if these folks argue that for the muslim world to really become "tolerant", it needs to accept peaceful dissent... well... that will be a START.

    This will at least put the matter of our existence in the public discourse of the Muslim ummah... and that sort of discourse will rope in a LOT of skeptical Muslims who will side with the "don't kill apostates" argument.

    the beauty of this is that the more muslims who argue against these skeptics for killing apostates, the more it will push the skeptics away from islam... why? because in their hearts they already have DOUBT... and to deny apostates their life, will be subconsciously felt as an attempt to kill their skepticism instead of satisfying it. That can be very emotionally threatening for humans...

    and that will push them away from islam...

    furthermore what it means for us is that there will be more apostates (which isn't either a good or a bad thing actually.. heh) but more importantly, it will become the basis for setting up other discussions related to "what's wrong with the muslim world", "what else do we need to change" etc..

    CHANGE will become the over arching topic. and that... is a great thing, considering how stagnant and frozen islam's image has been constructed to be (it wasn't in the past...)

    you want to bring about a huge change in the islamic world, then this is the most practical way of doing it.

    There are a couple of problems with this "method" of course. these are:

    1- most muslims live in rural areas, often without fresh water supply, scarce food etc, let alone tv, newspapers and magazines. reaching them is almost impossible with this method.
    2- The so-called "guardians of islam" (the wahhabi, salafi and other powerful groups who have placed their own in islamic institutions everywhere - especially in saudi arabia's islamic council) are backed up by hundreds of publishers and tons of money. They'll put out fatwas against such discourse... but that's only a part of it. they have an intelligentsia that prints books, islamic journals and other publications that will justify the stifling of such discussions. This will be taught to thousands of hardcore muslims across the world, through islamic websites and online classes such as those offered by farhat hashmi etc. in other words, they will bite back... and don't underestimate them.

    We apostates tend to think muslims are generally disorganized and stupid, but they're not. They've had 1400 years to develop an intense network of power structures. It is more decentralized than a government, more than the vatican, etc... which makes it almost invisible to us. but it's there: the majlis of the islamic scholars in saudi arabia are the "trend setters" who establish norms and sharia-laws, that are then copied by those in Pakistan, india, egypt, etc.

    They even have an islamic university - al-azhar, in Egypt that produces this intelligentsia. these guys publish thousands of books (just walk in to any islamic store and see for yourself the kind of tripe they put out... it's usually NEVER moderate, it's the extreme vitriolic stuff!) and this network hence has a lot of influence.

    They have the power to influence governments - after all, if you're a powerful mullah, asking the government to ban a book or a person is peanuts - it costs the government nothing.

    3- Apostates will create problems: rejecting liberal muslims as "ideologically weak" or arguing that they are on theologically un-sound footing, will not help. A rejection of liberals will mean a rejection of apostates by liberals. we will remain then, shunned by every one in the muslim world.. and the muslim world will hence remain a CLOSED CIRCUIT to us. We won't be able to bring change then...

    4- Liberal muslims may shun us any way for fear of being ostracized themselves from those they hold dear: their families and friends... or in the case of irshad manji: for fear of losing her money making business because she depends on muslims NOT ostracizing her and her books/documentaries. (i know this because i approached her with this idea... heh.)

    i'm sorry this is a long post... but here's the conclusion:

    overall i think it's still doable if we play our cards right. we need to have the right approach... it can happen... it's possible.

    now... if only i could make a living off this, i'd be rich and wouldn't feel like i'm wasting time. Tongue

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #23 - February 11, 2009, 07:49 PM

    I think rationale discourse can be successful depending on the topics you choose to discuss. If during a one-on-one you try to attack the behaviour of Muhammed or the social structures he introduced then you'll just be getting into long drawn out conversations that have been played out many times before. I personally think that would be a waste of time when initially your aim should be just to create a crack in the dam and not blow the whole thing up on your first attempt.

    As Muslims tend to believe Islam is the most 'logical' and 'scientific' religion around I would be more inclined to work through the following scenario

    Ex to Believer: "Do you believe everything in Islam?"

    Believer: "Yes of course."

    Ex: "Even the story about Muhammed ascending to heaven on the back of a 'horse-like' creature?"

    Believer: "Well..."

    Believer: Of course I do. It was a dream and a vision. And when muhammad finished the vision, he related to us what he saw in the vision.

    muhahahaha.

    "Ask the slave girl; she will tell you the truth.' So the Apostle called Burayra to ask her. Ali got up and gave her a violent beating first, saying, 'Tell the Apostle the truth.'"
  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #24 - February 11, 2009, 08:29 PM

    @SalahuddinR:

    re:replication. Yep, I borrowed a meme from memes regarding this.

    You started the conversation about how to address people, and now it is about addressing society, I can not keep up with this Smiley

    As to your opening statement: addressing people:
    I will maintain that the most efficient way is to look for what are their 'real hooks' to the ideology. Only once you determine what are the real hooks can you have a meaningful effective conversation.

    You mentioned that the most efficient way for you was discussing what bothered you. That is probably highly effective since, what bothered you, what got you to remove your hooks, is probably the same thing that is bothering them. It worked for you 95% efficient, it should work for them 75-90% efficient.

    Now on the issue of addressing society:
    Agree that we need to bring ex-muslims and secular muslims to the lights. Hard to do in islamic society, not because of the violence that the ex-muslims will face, but because the society as a whole does not reward creativity and elevates thuggish behavior.

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #25 - February 11, 2009, 10:18 PM

    Baal: i know.. i actually analyzed three or four different methods which worked and wrote a paper on how they work and whom to apply them to.

    i don't use the same terminology as yourself (hook), but "presently conflicting memes".

    for example; woman's rights arguments did little for me when i was a muslim, but worked wonders on muslim women who were infected by the feminist meme... that meme was fighting the islamic meme, so i just escalated the conflict by explaining how islam doesn't give women's rights as much as "she wants"... and that apostasy would resolve that conflict.

    for my communist friend from pakistan... the slavery argument.

    and for myself and a great friend of mine, to whom philosophy of ethics mattered: revenge is not justice...

    etc.

    one way to cultivate such anti-islam memes is to proactively seek apostasy stories and see what worked for them, find out what their "hook" or the "meme that broke islam's hold" was... and put that in to a database. you can't find this out without finding more about their personal likes and dislikes... their personality.. etc...

    so that when you come across them next, you apply it with fun. Tongue

    of course i don't do this anymore because i've got better things to do in life now... childhood "power trip" days are thankfully behind me. heh

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #26 - February 11, 2009, 10:26 PM

    Thanks Sal - you've raised some interesting points. 

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #27 - February 12, 2009, 04:38 AM

    Baal: i know.. i actually analyzed three or four different methods which worked and wrote a paper on how they work and whom to apply them to.

    Very interested to read.

    i don't use the same terminology as yourself (hook), but "presently conflicting memes".

    for example; woman's rights arguments did little for me when i was a muslim, but worked wonders on muslim women who were infected by the feminist meme... that meme was fighting the islamic meme, so i just escalated the conflict by explaining how islam doesn't give women's rights as much as "she wants"... and that apostasy would resolve that conflict.

    So in my method, I try to define First what is it that holds them to the religion (hooks, perceived usefulness). I am then only impliying the next logical step which is attacking the hooks.

    In your method, you also describe the next step, you first define what holds them (Hooks, memes) and then look for ways to attack the hooks (Create Conflict).

    Pretty much the same, but you are describing the process a little more then me.

    And I would like to +1 your comment that talking about feminism did little to you when you cared little about feminism. That is an extremely important commet for de-programming.

    Ghazali mentioned , that we should always maintain reason and logic, like hitting a stone, the hit can show a long time later.

    However, just as using logic and reason is important, I would say it is critical to first determine what subjects to pick. And that takes a different kind of logic and reason.


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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #28 - February 12, 2009, 11:36 AM

    I can see your point. That's why I always highlight the most repugnant aspects of Islam first when I'm debating with a Muslim, the things that make people intellectually and morally uncomfortable. Mohammad's pedophilia for example. You can argue that the Quran is full of scientific errors for example, but people tend to ignore such things later on in their lives.

     

    I did argue with my Muslim cousin Adil who believes in implementing the Shariah, about Ayesha's young age at marriage, he asked me what is wrong with that, how does one  respond to that?

    Then I asked him whether he would've married off his sister at such an age to a comparatively aged man, and he said that if it was a man like Mohammed, he definitely would.

    I then told him (my Indian upbringing makes me very uncomfortable to even mention such stuff, and to my cousin) that its not good for a girl's health to be married so early and he responded that Allah would take care that nothing happened to Ayesha as Allah wanted Islam to flourish. Go figure.

    If I try to debate the Burkha, Adil says that most rapes happen in U.S.A. and Allah has required women to cover up blah blah... so its allright for Saudi to enforce the veil but not allright for French schools to ban it.

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  • Re: Rational discourse is not as useful as you think
     Reply #29 - February 12, 2009, 11:50 AM

    Ghazali mentioned , that we should always maintain reason and logic, like hitting a stone, the hit can show a long time later.

    However, just as using logic and reason is important, I would say it is critical to first determine what subjects to pick. And that takes a different kind of logic and reason.


    Of course we hammer away at the weakest point. Hence we must direct our argument to where we can ascertain the person's sensibilities lie.

    We have to determine this as the exchange(s) proceeds.

    Use logic and reason yes. But it must be backed up using facts (with relevant hadiths or ayats):

     - about Muhammad's life
     - slavery
     - feminism
     - science
     - conquests
     - dhimmitude
     - silliness
     - contradictions
     - realities of Sharia

    As we touch on these points you can find out where you can concentrate for most impact, then others, and finally the penny may drop.

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