As much as I don't like men being perceived as uncontrollable beasts, there are lovely men and I have had many friends who are male. I do think they are wired slightly differently, and that doesn't take away from the fact that there is women who are wired similarly. The male friends I have had over the years have always been quite honest with me and that is where I gather my conclusions from. There's only ever been a few who genuinely wanted friendship, nothing else, and wouldn't take it if it was offered. Plus I've been friends with a few man whores (they amuse me and sicken me at the same time). I'm not saying that all Men want to bang you, but out of those that are keen to befriend you, be aware that there are some with other intentions, and not in a sick way at all, many of my friends who did end up liking me had genuine feelings for me. I just say that because women can be naïve to mens intentions, or more in denial I would say because sometimes they are quite obvious.
And as much as there are lovely guys that don't like you and lovely guys that do like you, there are horrible beast men, don't be ignorant of that, rape and sexual assault is still a very real thing, I know people who have been gang raped, raped and sexually assaulted and have had some, all be it minor, but not so nice experiences. All I am saying is don't tar men with the same brush, they're not all scum, but please don't be naïve and ignorant to potential dangers.
I don't ever think a woman deserves to be attacked regardless of what she wears or does. However I do think that women can be a bit stupid, if your going to get ape shit drunk, do it when you know you'll be safe. Yes the man shouldn't do it in the first place, be aware there are dangerous people there always will be to some degree and its just not wise to put yourself in that danger knowingly. Please don't mistake me as saying there is blame on the woman, if you go out in a thong, you will attract the wrong attention, it can't be helped, just be conscious of that. Its not nice that our world is this way, but it is this way. I repeat, i'm not saying she is to blame for being attacked at all, but she is aware of consequences (not rape) such as getting stares and attention and within that crowd may be a sick disgusting man. But on the other side of the coin, there are sick disgusting men who rape niqaabi's and women in their homes. Sexual assault is usually about power and abuse, rather than sexual appetite, and sometimes these sick men do it as a form of punishment to women to teach them a lesson. Ah hell I've just gone back on myself, you can't stop it from happening regardless but you can be cautious to a reasonable extent.
So basically what you're saying is sometimes when you're friends one or both parties can develop romantic feelings, and some men are predatory and will take advantage?
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