Yep. It's hard to shake off, too. I'll admit that it was only two years ago that I finally understood that women who wore "revealing" clothing weren't "asking" for it. Though I don't think any of my teachers ever outrightly said, "Women who don't wear hijab deserve to be raped", it was pretty obviously implied.
Child abuse.
Just wondering, if you were to see a woman in a t-shirt and jeans (or shorts), what's the general response? Is it that hard to leave her alone? Is it harder for men to be in the company of women than it is for women to be in the company of men?
Shocking you would even ask.
I'll admit that I know very little about how men (in general) view women. I always thought that the way a guy looks at me isn't very different than the way I look at a guy. If I find him attractive, I'll try to talk to him. If there's no interest there, then I'll leave him alone. But I've been told that it's different.
I was always taught that it was the woman's responsibility to make sure no one lusted after her (hence, hijab)
Child abuse.
I talked to my brother about it and how hijab is pointless, and his response was basically that I don't understand men and how hard it is on them.
Fucking up your kid with a warped mentality (aka child abuse)
Thank you. Seriously. I need to have more discussions like this with guys. God, I love this forum.
My brother is the guy I talk to the most, and it scared me how much he emphasized men needing to be in separate areas from women (even in restaurants!) and accused me of not being empathetic enough.
See my above comment, add in "raising your kid to become a rapist and not look at 50% of humanity as equal human beings" (aka child abuse).
It bothered me to think that while I could get over my crush and be great friends with the guy, the guy (if he was interested) couldn't and that I was just "teasing" him (which I suppose the whole "friendzone" thing came from, I guess) and Islam definitely chooses that narrative.
Fucking up your kid teaching self victim blaming and a lack of strength (aka child abuse).
Did I tell you that we would get in trouble at school if a girl and boy were seen talking to each other? And mostly, it was the girl's job to feel guilty because boys will be boys.
Fucking up your kids so they can't have a normal relationship with other human beings (aka child abuse).
I never knew it before, but maybe the environment I was raised was more toxic and dysfunctional than I thought. I guess it is unnatural to think that boys and girls must be separated because OH MY GOD THE BOY MIGHT WANT TO HAVE SEX AND SHE'S BEING SUCH A TEASE.
This is child abuse wilfully ingrained into your own children. I'm disturbed enough as a childless man in his mid twenties. If I was a father reading this I honestly think I'd feel ill.
I'll admit. I find the outside world intimidating. It's hard to get out of the bubble when the bubble is all I know.
Parents are supposed to teach you how to be strong and live your own lives as adults able to interact with the world. It's neglectful and automatically puts you at a disadvantage.
Thinking "Women should be equal!" while blaming myself for not doing enough to not tempt the random guy who called me a tease for not flirting back.
Child abuse.
All these years, I thought boys saw girls as nothing but sex objects.
Child abuse.
I just thought you were the exception.
It's going to take me a while to think that it's possible to be friends with guys long-term without feeling guilty.
Do I even need to give my opinion on the above at this point?
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