What if a man simply can't stand babies? Can't stand the crying, the diaper changes, the interruptions. Personally I would pay for child-support if I was forced to be a dad without my consent, but i know i would not even look at the child or ever meet him.
We have a word for that here in the States to describe a Man who is just as you described above--a pussy.
Seriously, if you're gonna have casual sex, know that it's like playing Russian Roulette. Despite all the safety precautions you take, there is always a chance you're gonna get fucked (no pun intended).
However, I should not be legally obliged to pay for a child that I do not want. Its got nothing to do with balls.
It has everything to do with having balls. If you're gonna do something, be a Man and know thy responsibilities of your actions. Simple as that. If that child is born, half of him/her comes from you. So you have every responsibility to
help take care of it.
And becoming a woman's boy-toy paying for a child you did not want does make you a better man although that's the way society puts it, choosing your own path and sticking to it makes you the alpha-male who puts his happiness over everything else.
An Alpha Male is the superior example of a real man (I stress the word Alpha here). It's true your happiness comes first, but being an Alpha Male also means you take responsibility for your actions. If you don't, then you're just a boy running around in a grown man's body pretending to be mature. The definition of a Man is to be a protector, provider, and pro-creator. Remember that.
I disagree, the instinct to kill is present in every man unless he is a very big wimp.
No it's not. It was when our ancestors were running around trying to take down mammoths, but as society evolved, we suppressed that instinct. The killer instinct is learned--which is why the military conditions one to kill. If it was that easy for an average Joe to pull the trigger despite how much in danger he/she was in, then there wouldn't be any need for military training.
I won't hesitate to kill anyone who threatens me or my family although I haven't killed anyone so far in my life.
Maybe not. But as of right now, this is what you think. When it comes down to the real deal, then thats where the real test is.
Secondly, just the fact that we are physically tough does not mean that we should have to change our lifestyle to accomodate a woman's decision, or to give up what we want to do in our lives for a baby.
What does physical strength have anything to do with being a father? I admit that it falls under the "protector" part of the definition, but thats not all that is there to being a father. No one says you have to give up your lifestyle to provide for the baby. If you truly can't stand raising your child directly, then you should provide for it by other means like child support.
And seriously, if you look at some men 10-15 years after they have a baby, its like they don't even live for themselves anymore. They look like living corpses. You should not underestimate the damage that the stress of becoming a father can do to a man, esp. if the man did not want the child & was not ready for it.
I have friends who are my age, that are happy fathers. There is nothing that stops them from going out with the guys on Saturday nights. They certainly don't look like corpses to me. Yes, they have more responsibilities now, but they don't allow that to take over their lives. They know how to balance.